Help With Decision To Quit Or Not, Andrew's Idea :) |
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Feb 26 2008, 04:49 PM
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QUOTE (OrganisedConfusion @ Feb 26 2008, 03:38 PM)  Something makes me unhappy and I just need to find what it is and change it. Good advice for anyone that. |
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Feb 26 2008, 09:19 PM
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Orrganized you are not a quiter, look how much you are stuck with guitar - 5 years! that's more than people go to college! Think about it. You are not having troubles with the guitar, you are having problems with your life and your band! Deal with your problems, and practice the guitar. The guitar will never be something bad in your life, music is the light man, and don't quit the thing that shades the light i your life. If you don't have to many friends - so what? People are alone in life most of the time! If you don't feel like playing in a band / QUIT the band! Practice on your own and search for another band. Maybe a year will pass, maybe you can make a small break, but don't put yourself down you're gonna feel even MORE miserable as time passes.
You need a change but not a change in a way that you quit playing, you know in your hearth that that is not the way to go. You need a positive change, so quit that band, be alone for a while and practice and pretty soon everything will work out! This post has been edited by Milenkovic Ivan: Feb 26 2008, 09:31 PM -------------------- - Ivan's Video Chat Lesson Notes HERE
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Feb 26 2008, 10:19 PM
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Well when someone asks me for advice about leaving music or not... I say always the same thing... NEVER GIVE UP ROCK'N ROLL!!
You're not a good guitarist? Ok, neither am I. If I thought as you are thinking now, I would have left music many years ago. Yeah, sometimes life is a s...t. THat's why there's rock'n roll!!! http://it.youtube.com/watch?v=BouIFzam3zU WATCH IT!!!! This post has been edited by Angelica: Feb 26 2008, 10:20 PM --------------------  It's better to please much to a few, than to please a few to many |
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Feb 26 2008, 10:24 PM
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i agree with everyone else about keeping one of ur guitars....
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Feb 26 2008, 11:22 PM
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QUOTE (OrganisedConfusion @ Feb 26 2008, 02:59 PM) Reason 1: I have been in the same band for 4 years now and we aren't going anywhere. We've been trying to find a bassist for a few years now and we've been recording songs mainly that I have written and I don't think my songs are good enough  Also I write every bit of the songs which is very stressful and I'm useless at organising gigs. We love playing gigs but we only have about 3 gigs a year and it's getting to the point where it just isn't worth the bother as I'm not enjoying the band anymore and I want to be giging every other week at least as we have enough songs and covers to do.Meet with the band on a regular rehearsal night but sit down in a neutral place. Discuss the matters and find solutions. Set up common goals and how to reach them. If you can't come to conclusions on how to move on then start thinking about quitting. Try to get organised first. Maybe form or find another band? QUOTE (OrganisedConfusion @ Feb 26 2008, 02:59 PM) Reason 2: I've been playing guitar for 5 years and I was self taught until recently when I started getting lessons off of David C Bond off of the forums. He is an amazing guitarist and a great teacher who always prepares well for every lesson and links everything together so well but I never seem to have time to practice what he is teaching me and it gets me down because I want to get better at what he is showing me but it's difficult to find the time so I never improve and I hold my pick wrong apparently but like many I still can't get my head around what is the correct way. Don't give up too easy. It takes time to get better but as progress starts showing it can sometimes come a lot in a chunk while other times there's just a little at a time. Refine your technique and give it 2-3 weeks of playing for a couple hours every day. It takes a bit of time to break a bad habit. Run boring scales etc. It's on 2-3 weeks, may feel like an eternity but it will help you a lot. And make sure you don't fall into improvising, that just brings back yyour old bad habits. Work on the new technique. Pick grip, dampening, neck grip or whatever it could be. QUOTE (OrganisedConfusion @ Feb 26 2008, 02:59 PM) Reason 3: I'm useless on guitar. My downpicking is so slow I can barely play anything downpicked. I struggle at playing any song. I can;t even play Paranoid fast enough down picked I don't know where I'm going wrong and if I'm even good enough to continue.Been there. Change your technique and I'm positive you will improve, a lot. QUOTE (OrganisedConfusion @ Feb 26 2008, 02:59 PM) I love listening to music and at one time when I was happy with myself and life I really loved guitar. Now I am miserable all the time and never feel like playing and I really need to sort my life out otherwise I'm just gonna drive myself insane or worse My opinion of my self is so bad and I think I'm an ugly piece of s*** that is a loser and just does the same process every day and never changes. I only have about 3 friends and I rarely go out Please help me. But I'm going to put my guitars up for sale I think. What do you guys think. I hope you can offer advice as it may help me to find the problem area. Cheers everybody  Give it a chance first, with the correct technique a sprinter can cut time, you can improve your accuracy and speed. Don't add "quitter" to the list of self disrespect you've got. Which I'm certain is not representative for how others look upon you but just how you look upon yourself. Not true i.e. Regarding "same process every day". Welcome to real life, that's just the way it is. Find the pieces of joy! Playing the guitar is mine, by myself or in my band. You say you write lousy songs, post them here and let the forum ppl help you improve them. We're got plenty of self proclaimed experts here, and some real ones  Take the songs back to your band and perform them.I suggest you focus! Focus on improving your technique. Focus on your song writing, take help and improve. Focus on improving your bandsituation. Because to me you seem very unfocused as of now. First selling all your guitars, then buying a new dean, back and forth all the time. As if now that a chunk of wood came of of the Caparison your entire life went downhill. Surely this has very little to do with your guitar but represents something else but instead of dealing with it you project it upon your guitars. Buying the Caparison in the first place, a $3000 guitar when you're not a professional. Why even do that? Completely crack up when it's broken. Why? Proclame self being ugly piece of **** looser at the same time. Why? Looks to me you have to realize this guitar (and the Parker) isn't your identity. Owning an expensive guitar doesn't improve your person, neither should it be in your hands to bring focus off of you => Capraison improves self, broken Caparison expose your person which you rate low - People will see you, not your guitar or even a broken expensive guitar would rate you even less. Ok, I like to study people and behaviour but as often as I'm wrong I'm also right. On a forum it's difficult of course but above is some conclusions. Wrong or right, only you'd know for certain. Bluntly put, certainly, but if I'm wrong laughs are on me  if I'm right in any way I'm glad if anything I said could support you.I like to butt in when I see two kids fighting or if I see a kid crying, if I'm not wanted, fine. And what I said was. Focus on yourself, take notice of yourself, work to improve your playing, don't quit and never degrade yourself. Your guitars are nothing, they don't represent who you are. What's worth something is you and you just need to realize you're a fine person no matter what guitars you've got. An easy "trick" of raising ones self esteem is if you stop looking down on the ground. Look straight forward, raise your chin 1 cm... you'll feel more secure and that's how others will see you aswell. Don't raise it too much or others will look upon you as stuck-up. If you're laughing and pointing at me I'm happy since then you're just in a passing moody temper. If not perhaps you've got years of bad selfesteem in your luggage. Stick around, this is a friendly place! -------------------- My bands homepage
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