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Posted by: Caelumamittendum Nov 19 2008, 08:19 PM
Hey everyone.
This is a kinda unusual post from me, as I'm not usually the kind who goes all out ranting like this... Sorry about that, but kinda have to get this out.
As some of you know, I recently moved away from home and into my own apartment. It has been great so far, and it still is - to some extent.
My girlfriend is here every now and then, often in weekends, but when she leaves the apartment becomes sooo empty. It's really like that whenever guests leave - though mostly when my girlfriend leaves.
Besides that work sucks at the moment, due to a bad district (I'm a mail man, remember?) at the moment and way to much post/mail. I would like to find another job, but no other job pays as well as this does, and gives you the same working hours. These at the job as a mail man is often great, but when you have a bad district or long or unfamiliar district you may be working 1 hour longer or so - so you're working 9 hours a day. Then you get home and before you know it your day has gone. And on top of that everything feels empty, because there's no company around here in the apartment.
To add to that I've lately felt a total lack of interest in doing things. In going to work, making dinner, go to the mall or anything in general. I often feel like just sitting and staring at the clock to make the time go slower. It may just be a general winter depression hitting me, but I'm usually not the type that gets knocked down by such.
I also woke up this morning feeling a strange dizzyness and kinda pressure in my chest, so I called in sick. And I feel like doing the same tomorrow, to try and get all this out of my head. But I also feel bad for doing so.
So to sum it up: I kinda feel like everything sucks at the moment and I can't be bothered to do anything and I just want time to slow down.
Rant over... 
And now I'm hoping for some cheerful replies... 
EDIT: Oh and another thing... I've begun not being able to fall asleep at night...
Posted by: Ivan Milenkovic Nov 19 2008, 08:38 PM
Life is tough mate, it will hardly let you enjoy it, you must fight to get your way in this big world. Don't get discouraged easily, get out of the home, do some walking, reading, hanging out with friends, go out with your girl. Sitting all the time at home can make you very depressing, so try to avoid spending all your time at home. Try practicing a bit, that can clear up your head and motivate you real quick.
Also this is just a passing thing, it'll be OK in a couple of days/weeks, just keep on pushing, and spend some quality time with people around you.
Posted by: Caelumamittendum Nov 19 2008, 08:42 PM
Also this is just a passing thing, it'll be OK in a couple of days/weeks, just keep on pushing, and spend some quality time with people around you.
Thing is... whenever I spent quality time with people, I always get kinda sad when they leave.
It reminds me of my childhood, where I used to go camping every weekend with my family. I was about 5 or 6. Whenever we left (sunday evening) I would cry cause I had had such a great time there and didn't want it to end. I don't cry these days, mind you, but it kinda feels the same
Posted by: Fran Nov 19 2008, 08:54 PM
Damn Cae, sounds like you are a bit depressed, cheer up mate, as soon as possible! Don't let the winter blues get you!
You say you'd like a new, better job, and that's very important. From what you say your job seems to be your biggest concern, so better look for a better one or pray to get a better district soon!. Try to focus on the good things though: you do have a job, you live on your own and you get good cash to spend on stuff!
As for the loneliness at home, that's quite worrying. I mean, you have your guitar, and internet, and there must be lots of things you enjoy doing in your free time. In my case I practice guitar, watch TV series and play some playstation now and then. Oh, and I check GMC forums & our wiki every day!.
This is easier said than done, but you have to focus on the good, leave the bad out of your head, and use all your free time doing the things you enjoy the most. Hope you get over the blues as soon as possible Cae 
Posted by: Caelumamittendum Nov 19 2008, 09:20 PM
Well, the thing is that I do actually do all the things I enjoy when I get home. I play guitar, I play playstation, I check the internet, I watch TV etc. But then the whole day is gone and I feel like I've done nothing productive.
I think it is the Winter blues that has got me - for the very first time in my life.
I don't know why I feel lonely. I used to see other people less when I lived with my parents. I used to just sit in my room when I was not at school etc. Every now and then people stop by here, but it's still not the same. It feels more lonely - as soon as they've left.
The latter especially when my girlfriend has left here. When I lived at home it didn't feel quite as bad, but now as soon as she has left I don't know what to do. I actually don't want to do anything then. But when she is here I have no problem playing PS3, checking the internet etc. But it's just uninteresting when she's left.
I know it sounds a little emo-ish, but I thought it would help to just get it out.
What worries me the most is how time seems to go by soooo fast. That is one thing I'd like to stop.
My girlfriend's family has offered me one of their cats. Or well, I can borrow it. 
Posted by: kjutte Nov 19 2008, 09:27 PM
Living alone does suck, man. I'm not really sure what to tell you.
Go out and drink, try to get some friends in the new town?
Posted by: Caelumamittendum Nov 19 2008, 09:40 PM
Go out and drink, try to get some friends in the new town?
Well, the thing is.... I meet at work at 6.15. So going out to get something to drink (which I do every time Tottenham plays) is not always a good option.
(I might be getting a cat soon though
)
Posted by: Caelumamittendum Nov 19 2008, 10:09 PM
Alright guys! More ranting:
I've decided to stay home tomorrow, to get on the top of things and seek some other jobs too maybe. I'm tired of having to get up that early and going to bed that early, so I'll see if I can find some other job with better working hours.
Posted by: jer Nov 19 2008, 10:15 PM
You did what you wanted to do. Thats productive.
Do you need another hobby?
Forget the cat. Get a dog.
Posted by: Caelumamittendum Nov 19 2008, 10:21 PM
Do you need another hobby?
Forget the cat. Get a dog.
I can get the cat for free, and it's not as noisy as a dog. Besides I'm not sure if I'm allowed to have animals here, but I can just "borrow" the cat and give it back if someone notices it.
Posted by: Ramiro Delforte Nov 19 2008, 10:22 PM
Some people have a difficult time living alone. I like a lot being alone and have no one around because I enjoy doing the things I want when I want and don't have anyone around that bothers me or I bother. But the first week that I moved to the apartment was very hard because a big change not having my mum or her dog around.
If you are a person who does not enjoy living alone maybe you could ask your girlfriend to move with you.
Regarding those days that you feel lost and empty. I think the best way to fight that feeling is to make goals. You can learn about something you like, or start a collection of music...I don't know, I have friends who like progressive music from all over the world and collect CDs from Germany (Krautrock) or Japan and stuff like that. You can always make a routine on your instrument and set goals like playing patterns from quarter=60 to quarter=80. I don't know I'm just throwing some ideas that helped me when I got depressed
I hope some of them could help you as well, and cheer up!
Posted by: jer Nov 19 2008, 10:25 PM
you could start "Fight Club".
(movie reference)
Posted by: superize Nov 19 2008, 10:26 PM
Well i have never tried living alone so i cant really tell........
Posted by: Caelumamittendum Nov 19 2008, 10:30 PM
(movie reference)
Might not be a good idea, if I'm going to look for other jobs and have job interviews coming up!
If you are a person who does not enjoy living alone maybe you could ask your girlfriend to move with you.
Regarding those days that you feel lost and empty. I think the best way to fight that feeling is to make goals. You can learn about something you like, or start a collection of music...I don't know, I have friends who like progressive music from all over the world and collect CDs from Germany (Krautrock) or Japan and stuff like that. You can always make a routine on your instrument and set goals like playing patterns from quarter=60 to quarter=80. I don't know I'm just throwing some ideas that helped me when I got depressed
I hope some of them could help you as well, and cheer up!
I do enjoy being by myself and enjoy playing guitar etc., but whenever I feel done with that or the day has gone by I become kinda sad as time seems to escape me, which bothers me the most. As I mentioned I sometimes wish I could slow time down, so I could do more during a day.
I do enjoy progressive metal, and I already collect these cheap radio promotion cds that are sent out and other cheap recordings from unknown bands!
Posted by: Ramiro Delforte Nov 19 2008, 10:36 PM
Hahaha, well, you could start another collection....I don't know....ehmmm Etnic Music?
Posted by: Fran Nov 19 2008, 10:37 PM
You need more spare time. You feel the day is short because your leissure time is short. If I were you I'd do my best to get a better job, I mean a job that leaves you more free time. Fight for it, even if it takes lots of effort and becomes a middle/long term goal, you only live once, so find a comfortable job for your needs. Those are never easy to get though.
Posted by: jer Nov 19 2008, 10:37 PM
I tell ya I spend a lot of time wishing I had your problem....
Time to myself.
Thats a luxury.
Start a band.
Give guitar lessons to kids.
Start a home based business.
Posted by: Caelumamittendum Nov 19 2008, 10:44 PM
Well the thing is. When I have a good district, I get off at 1 O'clock, meaning that I have like 9 hours of spare time. But there are lot of bad days, and I've never been one of those "getting up early" kinda persons, but now I have to.
Time to myself.
Thats a luxury.
Start a band.
Give guitar lessons to kids.
Start a home based business.
Well the problem isn't that I don't have things to do. The problem is that the spare time I do have goes by way to quickly!
Posted by: Kizaze44 Nov 19 2008, 10:49 PM
How about starting a project? Solo album for yourself?
Posted by: fatb0t Nov 19 2008, 10:51 PM
I can't stand waking up early either dude. It makes life miserable going to a job SUPER early everyday. I wake up and the first thing I do is say F&*!. =(
Posted by: Caelumamittendum Nov 19 2008, 10:53 PM
Well...See...
A couple of years ago I wrote some music for a project called Lex Naturae. Actually a full album. Never recorded it though. But I still have the sheets for it. Anyways... about 1-2 years ago, I decided to re-write it, as I weren't completely satisfied with it. I started out and wrote something, but wasn't quite satisfied with it. I wrote something new, but wasn't satisfied with it, and the circled continued, and it's been like that for 1½ year. So I haven't really written any music for 1½ year, as that is my one and only true goal these days - to write the perfect music for that project. But being the perfectionist I am when it comes to compositions, that is also what holds me back.
Posted by: mjsteps Nov 19 2008, 10:54 PM
It takes time to get adjusted to living by yourself. As far as your job goes as hard as it might be right now I suggest that you look for something positive in your current place of employment. If not it will wear you down, you find no satisfaction and even get to feeling "blue".
I also suggest that if you feel that you have not accomplished much during the course of the day that you actually write out what it is that you actually accomplished and you might be surprised that you just might be doing to much but are feeling pressured to think you should be doing more. But you need to be positive if not you will become depressed and I myself have been there, gotten treatment for it and I wish that for no one.
So hang in there things change all the time and be positive because there is always someone out there that is having more trouble than you, that there situation and circumstances are far worse . What ever difficulties , keep in mind that you will be a better person for them providing that you have the right frame of mind.
Posted by: Jeff Nov 19 2008, 10:54 PM
Do some charity work. In particular, something to help out children. Find a group of people who need help and pitch in. I'm telling you, you will never get more satisfaction out of your life than you do when you help others. It gives you a since of purpose, self-worth and a feeling of accomplishment. Then when you are alone, you know you have a purpose and you will be satisfied. Use that time to relax and enjoy it before you get to overwhelmed with starting your own family someday.
You will feel so much better about yourself knowing that there are others who are thankful that you are around. Plus you will meet tons of new friends and your existing friends, especially your girlfriend, will see you in a new light. Trust me
Posted by: Marek Rojewski Nov 19 2008, 10:54 PM
Well I can't say too much as I never lived alone. I live with my girlfriend for last 4-5 months but things aren't 100% good between us.
Now I need to see other people most I can, and play the guitar when not seeing them. That is the best day plan for me. I don't have to work much, only two days a week in my fathers firm, and university is also meting other people. Anyway what I would do in Your place is to just do the things You like.. Also maybe plan Your day, this will give You an impression of better time control. It is also important to make Your home "nice", I am a spartan type, but some items can make Your home a more pleasant place for You.
Posted by: Sentenced Nov 19 2008, 10:54 PM
After i was finished with school, i had some months where i could play guitar and do all the things that i wanted the whole day. It was great, but still then i felt like i had not enough time - maybe because i felt like i've started to play guitar too late (19). Now i study and feel similar, i often play guitar longer than i probably should compared to the time of learning, but if i do some exercises on the guitar i feel better, like i WAS productive.
What i want to say is, that sometimes even whole days of spare time are not enough, its like a mental thing - i cant describe it really good. But i know some people who get bored if the have a long period of "spare time days" - i dont belong to this group, i think all who are passionate about some things may it be the guitar or something else feel like they dont have enough time, because they want to have more and more, but now i start to get offtopic so i hope some of my thoughts are actually hitting the point and my grammar isnt that bad.
cheers
hope you feel better soon.
Posted by: Caelumamittendum Nov 19 2008, 11:00 PM
Yeah. Same here. It's quite nice once it is done, when it's a good day, as I am then done by 1 O'clock in the afternoon.
In the beginning I thought that was quite alright, as I had all afternoon to do the things I liked. However I've come to realise that none of my friends are available at that time, and no-one is online at internet forums etc...
So I'd much rather work from 8 to 4 or 9 to 5 or even 10 to 6... but I'm not sure if it pays as good as my current job does.
You will feel so much better about yourself knowing that there are others who are thankful that you are around. Plus you will meet tons of new friends and your existing friends, especially your girlfriend, will see you in a new light. Trust me
True enough. The thing is I'm afraid that the main problem lies within the meeting hours at my job.
Thanks for the reply!
What i want to say is, that sometimes even whole days of spare time are not enough, its like a mental thing - i cant describe it really good. But i know some people who get bored if the have a long period of "spare time days" - i dont belong to this group, i think all who are passionate about some things may it be the guitar or something else feel like they dont have enough time, because they want to have more and more, but now i start to get offtopic so i hope some of my thoughts are actually hitting the point and my grammar isnt that bad.
cheers
hope you feel better soon.
I know exactly what you mean, and I am exactly like you.
What is most troublesome also, is that I'm probably more of a night-kinda person, but my current job is from 6 to 14... So I have to get up early and go to bed early.
Posted by: lcsdds Nov 19 2008, 11:01 PM
Well the problem isn't that I don't have things to do. The problem is that the spare time I do have goes by way to quickly!
My experience has been that the grass is always greener. I remember when I was in college married with a kid and broke as hell I always thought "if I could just graduate and start making money then life will get good". Then I graduated got a good job and thought "if I could just get a little savings and pay off my debt then life will get good". Did that and then thought "If I could just get my kids grown a little bit and have more time then life will be better"!! The point is that every chapter of our lives present challenges and you just have to learn to adapt to them and roll with the punches. Control what you can, like your job etc. But for the most part there is nothing easy about life, it is a struggle all the way IMO. I will say one thing though, I have been dirt poor and not so dirt poor and I know for a fact that having money doesn't make you happy. The things that will make you happy are your relationships with people. Everything else in this life can dissapear in a heartbeat, trust me on this!!!
Monte
Posted by: Caelumamittendum Nov 19 2008, 11:03 PM
Now I need to see other people most I can, and play the guitar when not seeing them. That is the best day plan for me. I don't have to work much, only two days a week in my fathers firm, and university is also meting other people. Anyway what I would do in Your place is to just do the things You like.. Also maybe plan Your day, this will give You an impression of better time control. It is also important to make Your home "nice", I am a spartan type, but some items can make Your home a more pleasant place for You.
I too am a bit of a spartan person, but I have tried to make my home feel like home. However it's still feels empty whenever I'm alone. I hope that if I get a cat that will help a bit
Monte
That's some nice advice. In the last two months I've had some money left at the end of the month, so a slight decrease in salary wouldn't be a huge problem probably. Let's say that is the case:
Do you suggest I find another job or keep my current?
Posted by: lcsdds Nov 19 2008, 11:09 PM
That's some nice advice. In the last two months I've had some money left at the end of the month, so a slight decrease in salary wouldn't be a huge problem probably. Let's say that is the case:
Do you suggest I find another job or keep my current?
I certainly wouldn't quit your job until you have another lined up, especially in this economy. My experience is that a job is just that, a job. It shouldn't define who and what you are. There are always gonna be things about your job that suck!! But if you are not happy with your job you should definitely see if you can't find a better one. How old are you? Maybe you should look into going to college or further your education some how if you haven't already. You can never go wrong investing in yourself IMO
Good luck!!
Posted by: Caelumamittendum Nov 19 2008, 11:12 PM
Good luck!!Well, of course I would keep my current job till I find another. Another job probably wouldn't pay as well.
I am only 19 years old actually. 20 soon. I'm going to university in a year or two, as I wanted a break from that as well, as it would have been 18 years straight of school, high school and university. That was too much as well. So I'm taking a year or two off.
Posted by: lcsdds Nov 19 2008, 11:22 PM
I am only 19 years old actually. 20 soon. I'm going to university in a year or two, as I wanted a break from that as well, as it would have been 18 years straight of school, high school and university. That was too much as well. So I'm taking a year or two off.
My experience with taking time off from school is that it is very hard to get motivated to go back. Once you get the "freedom" of not studying for tests etc. it is TOUGH to get back into that frame of mind. Again, good luck!!
Monte
I am only 19 years old actually. 20 soon. I'm going to university in a year or two, as I wanted a break from that as well, as it would have been 18 years straight of school, high school and university. That was too much as well. So I'm taking a year or two off.
My experience with taking time off from school is that it is very hard to get motivated to go back. Once you get the "freedom" of not studying for tests etc. it is TOUGH to get back into that frame of mind. Again, good luck!!
Monte
Posted by: Caelumamittendum Nov 19 2008, 11:43 PM
Monte
True. I've heard both this and the opposite way around.
As said earlier, I am taking the day off tomorrow to try and get my head sorted and maybe write some job applications as well.
Posted by: Emir Hot Nov 20 2008, 08:23 AM
When I read your first post I remembered the moment when I felt exactly the same. What I did, I wrote a song in 30 min. It's a moment when you have enough of everything and need a kind of a punch to wake up and move on. The whole depression came out within minutes. I took a pen and paper and wrote lyrics almost without a stop spilling all the anger I had about my life and everythng arround me. As I was writting, the melody and whole arrangement were coming to my mind sorted like a puzzle. When I was done I felt so strong like never before. The song is now on my album and someone put it on Youtube with some static pitcutes. Here it is. We also did a proper video for this one and it's being edited at the moment. Tell me what you think.
Stand and fight
When you dream about the past
Seems like it wasn't long ago
But the dream has gone and words just tell the tale
Life is short and maybe we can get another chance
To make up all we missed out yesterday
We're standing at the crossroads where we need to decide
Which way we should be moving on tomorrow
We never know what's right or wrong 'cause nothing lights the way
But the flame is burning on and on again
Stand and fight- for dreams of our lives
Say it loud- we're never falling down
For the light- we pray with all our hearts
See the stars- that fall down from the sky
Soon we'll know if we are done or still we feel the pain
But the flame is burning on and on again
When you feel you're in the dark and there's just no more time to pray
You realize it's just your circumstance
If there's a sign of hope in sight across the seven seas
It's hard to fight while drowning in your tears
One wrong step ahead and a voice from hell calls your name
To show you it can change your destiny
We still don't know what's right or wrong 'cause nothing lights the way
But the flame's still burning on and on again
Posted by: OrganisedConfusion Nov 20 2008, 10:59 AM
Man I'm jealous. I'd love my own apartment
Posted by: Caelumamittendum Nov 20 2008, 12:24 PM
Stand and fight
When you dream about the past
Seems like it wasn't long ago
But the dream has gone and words just tell the tale
Life is short and maybe we can get another chance
To make up all we missed out yesterday
We're standing at the crossroads where we need to decide
Which way we should be moving on tomorrow
We never know what's right or wrong 'cause nothing lights the way
But the flame is burning on and on again
Stand and fight- for dreams of our lives
Say it loud- we're never falling down
For the light- we pray with all our hearts
See the stars- that fall down from the sky
Soon we'll know if we are done or still we feel the pain
But the flame is burning on and on again
When you feel you're in the dark and there's just no more time to pray
You realize it's just your circumstance
If there's a sign of hope in sight across the seven seas
It's hard to fight while drowning in your tears
One wrong step ahead and a voice from hell calls your name
To show you it can change your destiny
We still don't know what's right or wrong 'cause nothing lights the way
But the flame's still burning on and on again
Thanks for the reply!
The thing is - concerning music I've been stuck in a rut for 1½ year and haven't written anything since last summer (1 song) and the one before that is 2 years ago soon. So that is another thing that is really killing me. I used to be able to write songs in a couple of hours - more than one on a day etc., but now I just can't get the right feelings out with music anymore.
Well, it's not really the apartment it self, that I don't like. It's all the things that come with it - and those are mostly just in my head.
Posted by: OrganisedConfusion Nov 20 2008, 12:28 PM
It's always good having your own time and space. You just need to keep yourself busy. Watch TV, play guitar, invite friends round or go round friends. When you feel lonely at times it is normal when you have got a place of your own but use it to your advantage. Sit back and play guitar or watch some films or get other things done.
Posted by: Caelumamittendum Nov 20 2008, 12:31 PM
Well, as I tried to explain: I have plenty of things to do!
but then time passes by all too fast!
Posted by: OrganisedConfusion Nov 20 2008, 12:32 PM
but then time passes by all too fast! Time passes fast for all unfortunately. I was 16 yesterday. Now I'm 24. What happened. I feel like an old man.
Posted by: Caelumamittendum Nov 20 2008, 12:42 PM
Yeah, of course! I wish I could slow it down though. I always feel like the day goes by way to fast and that I haven't really done anything.
Meh. Will just have to get my act together and stop being emo!
Posted by: OrganisedConfusion Nov 20 2008, 12:44 PM
Meh. Will just have to get my act together and stop being emo!
I think it's because of your job a bit because you'll be getting up and working when it's dark and going home and sleeping no doubt and getting up when it's dark. That can be depressing. Do you see much daylight with your job? Unless it's different where you are from. My mum's boyfriend is a mail man and he works from 4AM to Midday.
Posted by: Caelumamittendum Nov 20 2008, 12:48 PM
I work from ehr 6 AM till 1-2 PM. So it's not really that bad, and I do see a lot of daylight.
But however, many of my friends work at different hours etc. So even though I get home early, there's no one to talk to - and people at the internet forums are usually only writing later on.
How pathetic I am.
As said, I think I just need to snap out of it.
Besides, at said earlier on, I might be getting a cat to keep me company...
Posted by: OrganisedConfusion Nov 20 2008, 12:50 PM
But however, many of my friends work at different hours etc. So even though I get home early, there's no one to talk to - and people at the internet forums are usually only writing later on.
How pathetic I am.
As said, I think I just need to snap out of it.
Besides, at said earlier on, I might be getting a cat to keep me company...
When I felt lonely I bought a 40 inch TV lol and a Blu Ray Player
You can't feel lonely sat infront of that with surround sound and HD TV. Feels like you're sat in the sxame room as 100 horses
Posted by: Caelumamittendum Nov 20 2008, 12:51 PM
You can't feel lonely sat infront of that with surround sound and HD TV. Feels like you're sat in the sxame room as 100 horses I have a 37 inch TV and a PS3
I haven't felt like playing any games lately though.
Posted by: OrganisedConfusion Nov 20 2008, 12:55 PM
I haven't felt like playing any games lately though.Just dance round the house singing. But I do think seriously you should look for a 9 - 5 job. Dull as anything but most of your friends would probably be free when you are then
Posted by: Caelumamittendum Nov 20 2008, 12:57 PM
Yeah, exactly. It probably won't pay as well, but I'll look into it.
On another note - a lot of my friends have night time jobs actually
Posted by: OrganisedConfusion Nov 20 2008, 01:00 PM
I'm a creature of the night but work in the day. I look like Count Dracula at work in this office
Get a job in an office doing accounting or something. Pays great and you can usually have flexi time so you can work pretty much when you want
Posted by: Caelumamittendum Nov 20 2008, 01:01 PM
Yeah! I wouldn't mind that. Besides, as stated earlier, I too am a creature of the night So getting up at 5.30 and having to go to bed early really isn't my cup of tea.
Posted by: OrganisedConfusion Nov 20 2008, 01:04 PM
So getting up at 5.30 and having to go to bed early really isn't my cup of tea.That's probably why you have trouble sleeping. I go to bed about 2am and fall to sleep instantly. If I even tried to get to sleep before midnight I wouldn't be able to. You just need to check your options. Being a mail man is a good job money wise and pension wise in the UK but it's tiring work and it's at poor hours. Look into office work as you get paid a fair amount there and it is fairly easy.
You just need to sort out things like that. I'd imagine it isn't just your apartment and being on your own that is getting you down. My job gets me down and I'm trying to leave it but sort out a job before you quit current one otherwise that is really a bad move.
Posted by: Dejan Farkas Nov 20 2008, 01:07 PM
I'll just paste here something that I received in my email, hope it may help
Break the rules,
Forgive quickly,
Kiss slowly,
Love truly,
Laugh uncontrollably,
And never regret anything that made you smile.
Life may not be the party we hoped for,
but while we're here we should dance.
Posted by: OrganisedConfusion Nov 20 2008, 01:08 PM
Another Free Viagra Spam Email
I'm joking
True words. Unfortunately I fail to live by true words 
Posted by: Caelumamittendum Nov 20 2008, 01:09 PM
You just need to sort out things like that. I'd imagine it isn't just your apartment and being on your own that is getting you down. My job gets me down and I'm trying to leave it but sort out a job before you quit current one otherwise that is really a bad move.
Yeah. I go to bed at 10 or 11 PM, where as I used to go to bed at 2 or 3AM.
Money wise and pension wise working as a mail man is great here too.
The only problem working in an office is that they often want you to have some relevant "office education", which I don't have. But maybe I should just send some applications anyways. Often they state that people with relevant educations will be prioritized, but that it's not a must.
Posted by: OrganisedConfusion Nov 20 2008, 01:12 PM
Money wise and pension wise working as a mail man is great here too.
The only problem working in an office is that they often want you to have some relevant "office education", which I don't have. But maybe I should just send some applications anyways. Often they state that people with relevant educations will be prioritized, but that it's not a must.
Most of them will interview you and do a little proficiency test to see what your qualities are. In an office they just want hard workers who get the job done. They don't all rely on qualifications. Like say working in an office doing online web orders for a supermarket. Well paid and all you do is check when orders come through and go round the shop collecting the items to send to them. Easy work and you get to do some exercise
Posted by: kyldeee Nov 20 2008, 01:15 PM
I feel you man, I'm so under the Winter Blues right now ( Tho I love winter )
I really don't have anything to say that could cheer you up, expect hang in there... Life can be hard...
-Kylde
Posted by: Caelumamittendum Nov 20 2008, 02:14 PM
Just sent off four well-written applications!
Posted by: OrganisedConfusion Nov 20 2008, 02:16 PM
Cool. You'll have to let us know how they go
Posted by: Caelumamittendum Nov 20 2008, 02:26 PM
Sure thing. Two of them were "start as soon as possible"'s, and the other two were from the 2nd January. Already got two responses that two of them had recieved my application.
Posted by: Caelumamittendum Nov 20 2008, 06:48 PM
Just sent out another three job applications.
Posted by: seagull Nov 20 2008, 07:25 PM
Lyder som en god gammel vinterdepression. Kender det alt for godt! Det er virkelig nedern når det står på, men det går over på et tidspunkt. Mht. du mangler selskab, så køb da en kat Det er da virkelig noget man kan give opmærksomhed.
Ellers, så bare lav ting du elsker. Se sjove film, spil guitar osv.
Og ja, synes det er en god idé, meld dig syg i morgen igen. Tag en ordentlig slapper her i weekenden, og se om ikke det kan afhjælpe lidt på situationen.
God "bedring"!
/Seagull
(ps. Yeah, sucks to be unable to read it, aye? now you know how we feel when all you guys write serbian, polish and what not )
Posted by: Caelumamittendum Nov 20 2008, 07:29 PM
Det er da virkelig noget man kan give opmærksomhed. Ellers, så bare lav ting du elsker. Se sjove film, spil guitar osv.
Og ja, synes det er en god idé, meld dig syg i morgen igen. Tag en ordentlig slapper her i weekenden, og se om ikke det kan afhjælpe lidt på situationen.
God "bedring"!
/Seagull
(ps. Yeah, sucks to be unable to read it, aye?
now you know how we feel when all you guys write serbian, polish and what not )Jeg skal godt nok på arbejde lørdag, men det tror jeg godt lige, at jeg kan overskue. Men imorgen tror jeg også, at jeg slapper af m.v.
Jeg har desuden søgt et par andre jobs med andre arbejdstider - 8 til 16 eller 9 til 17. Så må jeg se, om jeg får noget respons på dem.
Hov og forresten... så FÅR jeg katten
Af min kærestes mor som er katteopdrætter. De har omkring 30 katte, og denne ene kat vil have AL opmærksomheden - så de kan godt undvære den, siger de Jeg har postet et par billeder på forrige side eller første side.
Posted by: seagull Nov 21 2008, 09:59 AM
Jeg har desuden søgt et par andre jobs med andre arbejdstider - 8 til 16 eller 9 til 17. Så må jeg se, om jeg får noget respons på dem.
Hov og forresten... så FÅR jeg katten
Af min kærestes mor som er katteopdrætter. De har omkring 30 katte, og denne ene kat vil have AL opmærksomheden - så de kan godt undvære den, siger de Jeg har postet et par billeder på forrige side eller første side.Haha, hvor cool! Katte styrer fandme...
Arbejder 07:00-15:30, så har man trods alt noget tid når man kommer hjem til at slappe af og sådan inden man rammer sovekassen kl. 22-23. Det var sgu også svært at vænne sig til oven på 3 års gymnasie at man pludselig ikke er omgivet af sine venner hver dag, men hvad....man får nogle nye på arbejde så
Mit arbejde er dog så fleksibelt, at jeg kan møde/gå når det passer mig, så længe jeg når det jeg skal. Så har jeg en off-day kan jeg bare smutte tidligere hjem og komme i godt humør igen.
Det kan kun anbefales!
Held og lykke med job-jagten!
Posted by: Caelumamittendum Nov 21 2008, 12:11 PM
Arbejder 07:00-15:30, så har man trods alt noget tid når man kommer hjem til at slappe af og sådan inden man rammer sovekassen kl. 22-23. Det var sgu også svært at vænne sig til oven på 3 års gymnasie at man pludselig ikke er omgivet af sine venner hver dag, men hvad....man får nogle nye på arbejde så
Mit arbejde er dog så fleksibelt, at jeg kan møde/gå når det passer mig, så længe jeg når det jeg skal. Så har jeg en off-day kan jeg bare smutte tidligere hjem og komme i godt humør igen.
Det kan kun anbefales!
Held og lykke med job-jagten!
Hah! Hvad er det for en slags arbejde?
Jeg arbejder jo som postomdeler, og møder kl 6.15. Nogle dage, på en god rute, kan man være færdig 12.15, mens man andre dage først er færdig 14.30. Og det er ærlig talt lidt surt ikke at vide, hvornår man er færdig.
Min leder var endda så fræk at sige, at man ikke kunne lave aftaler på hverdage, når man arbejdede hos Post Danmark, fordi man ikke kunne vide, hvor lang tid det ville tage - og han mente aftaler efter regulær arbejdstid til 13.39. Der var jeg ved at blive småsur.
Posted by: Joe Kataldo Nov 21 2008, 12:37 PM
That's life man...Thanks GOD there is MUSIC!
Posted by: Caelumamittendum Nov 21 2008, 06:34 PM
This might sound a bit cheesy, but taking my current situation into account it might work out well.
If I quite the job at the post office before the 8th of December I can quit from one day to the other, however if I stay after that I will have to be there for one month.
I have been offered a job in Netto, which I can have temporarely untill I find something more interestering. It doesn't pay as well, unless you work those strange hours, which I actually like. So that's pretty cool. He's a fan of Spurs and actually a member of the Danish fan club - the guy who is the boss at the store or whatever. He told me that we could just make a deal that I could quit when I found something more interesting.
So I could say yes to that and seek another job meanwhile, so I'm not forced to stay at the postal service for one month more.
What do you say guys? I need some opinions here.
Posted by: Caelumamittendum Nov 21 2008, 08:29 PM
Anyone?
Posted by: Caelumamittendum Nov 24 2008, 08:59 PM
The Netto dude answered and wants me to come to have a chat with him.. and I can start and stop from one day to the other.
Posted by: OrganisedConfusion Nov 24 2008, 09:05 PM
Just do what'll make you happy. I'd work at Netto until I find something more permanent
Posted by: Caelumamittendum Nov 24 2008, 09:35 PM
Yeah exactlt. And the shop is open from 8 to 22, so there's a chance I can work 2pm to 10pm
Posted by: Young Guitarist Nov 25 2008, 06:01 PM
Hmm, i cant imagine how you have it, but my friend had the same problem as you, he actually got a cat, and cats are immencely fun to play with, it feels like having you'r own friend thats always arround
Posted by: OrganisedConfusion Nov 25 2008, 06:06 PM
Our Cat Dropped Dead, we sold to another loving family
Note: This is a joke. In this fictional tale of love and loss our cat was called Dropped Dead.
Posted by: Young Guitarist Nov 25 2008, 06:06 PM
Haha, Organised, you're a genious ! xD...
Posted by: OrganisedConfusion Nov 25 2008, 06:07 PM
haha. I wouldn't go that far. I just have nothing better to do at work other than come up with silly stories
Posted by: Young Guitarist Nov 25 2008, 06:11 PM
Hows work? XD
Posted by: OrganisedConfusion Nov 25 2008, 06:16 PM
Not well
I think I will be applying for Caelum's old job And no I didn't get him to leave so I could have his job Did Netto get back to you in the end Caelum>?
Posted by: Caelumamittendum Nov 25 2008, 07:05 PM
Yeah, I am going to meet the boss (who is a Tottenham fan) thursday It'll only be a temporary job of course.
Posted by: ChrisVdS Nov 25 2008, 10:25 PM
Well i know how it is to do long hours 9 hour working days are normal for me in work for a shipsupplier and almost every day i work 2 sometimes 3 extra hours, i lived alone in my appartment for a year but i was so sick and tired being in an empty room that i decided to move back in with my parents again. Living on your own and trying to save money for guitars or a decent amp is a hard thing to do And guitar = complaining neighbours
Posted by: Caelumamittendum Nov 26 2008, 06:54 PM
WWhhaat One of the secretarys from a lawyer company I wrote to has asked me to call them about a job position they may have to offer.
Or well...it went like this (the emails):
[Benjamin sends application]
Reply:
"Thank you for your application. We will return soon regarding a possible job interview."
My reply:
"Thank you very much. I am looking very much forward to that."
Their reply:
"Will you please contact me on my phone number **********"
So I am going to call them tomorrow!
Posted by: Gerardo Siere Nov 26 2008, 09:51 PM
Good luck with the interview, one thing that my help is to get a job that you have more group contac with your coworkers, where work can be a source to get some extra friends.
Posted by: Fran Nov 26 2008, 10:03 PM
Good luck Cae!
By the way, how do you like living with your new cat?
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