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Posted by: Juan M. Valero Feb 22 2008, 09:19 AM
I've been thinking about my relationship with my girlfriend and my guitar... hehe, she (my girl) is always saying me that I spend more time with my JEM than with she... and that's true... In fact I think I spend almost the double time with my guitar so sometimes she is sad and angry about this situation. I'm terribly sorry but I love music and I work in music so I NEED to play almost all day, and I don't know how to explain it to my girlfriend...
some got the same problem?? how can you do a normal life with girlfriend and guitar ?? Do you think I'm crazy ??? (probably yes 
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Posted by: Outlaw2112 Feb 22 2008, 09:23 AM
Ive got the same problem here, she keeps callin me up on the phone while im playing and seems to talk forever... I explained everything to her and she is a little more understanding, but she doesnt understand all the time...
Posted by: Pavel Feb 22 2008, 09:34 AM
Now you know why i don't have a G/F. I don't even have time for myself to do all i want to do, so G/F would too time consuming 
Posted by: mattacuk Feb 22 2008, 09:38 AM
I had to choose between dating a girl and my guitar, and I told her I was too busy to dating. If it was someone I really liked I would find the time for her, but untill (or if) I do my guitar and studies get the best of me.
But guess who gets the rest of me? (sorry for qouting a Sophie Elis Bextor song there) 
Posted by: OrganisedConfusion Feb 22 2008, 09:53 AM
(sorry for qouting a Sophie Elis Bextor song there) Oh dear lol
I'm trying to find a girl who sings or plays guitar and then she'll know where I'm coming from with my I need to play guitar everyday. Don't require one too fast though. Need some equipment purchases to be made first
I want an Ebow next.Posted by: mattacuk Feb 22 2008, 10:11 AM
I'm trying to find a girl who sings or plays guitar and then she'll know where I'm coming from with my I need to play guitar everyday. Don't require one too fast though. Need some equipment purchases to be made first
I want an Ebow next.
Posted by: Juan M. Valero Feb 22 2008, 10:15 AM
I'm trying to find a girl who sings or plays guitar and then she'll know where I'm coming from with my I need to play guitar everyday.
yeah, my girl is a singer, and I meet her because I had a band an we was searching for a singer
Posted by: visi0n Feb 22 2008, 10:52 AM
some got the same problem?? how can you do a normal life with girlfriend and guitar ?? Do you think I'm crazy ??? (probably yes
) Haha Juan, i know exactly what you mean ..!! when i had a girlfriend 2 years ago she played guitar too .. so i think i was a bit lucky with that because she did understand it (littlebit), but if i picked up the guitar when i was with her, it was always .. YOU DONT HAVE TIME FOR MEEEE, AND YOU KEEP PLAYINGGG bleeeeeeee
so girls dont understand it after all, hahahaha.Difficult Juan.. i dont know a solution so they can understand it ..
Posted by: Muris Feb 22 2008, 11:27 AM
Looks like I have some luck in that topic,
my girlfriend understands my connection with guitar pretty well,no complaint at all.
Tho she doesn't understand me in some other matters but that's life I guess.
Posted by: Smells Feb 22 2008, 11:31 AM
Pretty much the same here, the only time I may get a complaint is at the weekends (daytime) if I want to do some recording etc, so as shes pretty good about it all the other times I guess I can compromise at the weekends
Posted by: Tomotoms Feb 22 2008, 11:34 AM
Try writting some songs for your gf, she won't complain then.
Posted by: Smells Feb 22 2008, 11:39 AM
This is very true, my wifes been asking me to write her a song for ages
Posted by: mattacuk Feb 22 2008, 11:40 AM
my girlfriend understands my connection with guitar pretty well,no complaint at all.
Tho she doesn't understand me in some other matters but that's life I guess.
Its ok though muris, we understand you here at gmc
Posted by: Juan M. Valero Feb 22 2008, 11:43 AM
GREAT IDEA !!! hehehe, I should try it
Posted by: The Uncreator Feb 22 2008, 12:07 PM
Last girlfriend i had would sometimes really get mad at me, because she would call at 1pm, id be playing, call back at 6pm, and id still be there in the same spot
Also, its like all i ever think about
Posted by: Milenkovic Ivan Feb 22 2008, 01:07 PM
My girl also wants me to write her songs!
Don't worry Juan, just try to talk as much as you can with your girl on the subject, and try to explain why you like your music and why you spend so much time with your guitar.
Off course, occasional flowers or a small present can do wonders
Posted by: Muris Feb 22 2008, 01:13 PM
Posted by: Batista Feb 22 2008, 01:47 PM
With my last girlfriend I said to her that I really was to busy with music to have a girlfriend. She said that wouldn't be a problem, that she understood me. It went a week before she broke up I guess it all comes down to priorities.
Posted by: Juan M. Valero Feb 22 2008, 02:22 PM
Don't worry Juan, just try to talk as much as you can with your girl on the subject, and try to explain why you like your music and why you spend so much time with your guitar.
Off course, occasional flowers or a small present can do wonders
OUCH !!! that's true, and need to buy something 'cos tomorrow is her birthday and next they we!!!
Posted by: Mark. Feb 22 2008, 02:29 PM
I have the perfect GF
My girlfriend always complains when I DONT play guitar 
(Maby it's because my girlfriend and my guitary are the same thing)
Posted by: Juan M. Valero Feb 22 2008, 04:50 PM
hehe, that's a great girlfriend
Posted by: SLASH91 Feb 22 2008, 04:51 PM
some got the same problem?? how can you do a normal life with girlfriend and guitar ?? Do you think I'm crazy ??? (probably yes
) Music is your job now, right? Then playing guitar is just the same as if you went into work for eight hours.
Posted by: Goliath Feb 22 2008, 05:02 PM
When you do spend time with her just make her feel really special and make sure she knows that when you're with her, you're 100% with her, but when you're playing your guitar, you need your space since it is now your profession and she needs to understand/respect that. Best solution I have for you, and it's not a very good one
Posted by: Milenkovic Ivan Feb 22 2008, 06:20 PM
I think some flowers and a song is a truly nice gift. Compose something gently and honest, it should be piece of cake oh and forgot to mention : NO SHRED ALLOWED!
Posted by: Juan M. Valero Feb 22 2008, 06:36 PM
yeah, that's true... but I spend more than 8 hours on the guitar
Posted by: Juan M. Valero Feb 22 2008, 06:38 PM
That's a great explanation, I try to do what you've said !!!
Posted by: Juan M. Valero Feb 22 2008, 06:41 PM
I think some flowers and a song is a truly nice gift. Compose something gently and honest, it should be piece of cake oh and forgot to mention : NO SHRED ALLOWED!
mmm I try with some flowers first
I cannot play without shred !!
Posted by: Tjchep Feb 22 2008, 06:56 PM
My girlfriend always complains when I DONT play guitar
(Maby it's because my girlfriend and my guitary are the same thing)
Posted by: kyldeee Feb 22 2008, 07:02 PM
Don't have a girlfriend ATM, so no problems there
Posted by: Duncan Feb 22 2008, 07:05 PM
With all my girlfriends in the past, I've never had any trouble balancing them with guitar practise. I used to go out most evenings anyway so that was always perfect time to be spent with them. Then a few times during the day just don't play as much. It isn't really that hard.
Posted by: coffeeman Feb 22 2008, 08:06 PM
A girlfriend I had a couple of years ago did break up with me because I used to play guitar more than I was with her. With my last girlfriend I didn't have any problems , but she always told to me to learn tropical music , here are a couple of examples of what she wanted me to learn:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=c32U8GXwZ4g
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2HjyRHaBMXg&feature=related
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6bC_gDlkMY8
This kind of music is the most popular in the Discos here in Bogota. So.....
Posted by: The Uncreator Feb 22 2008, 08:30 PM
I had one girlfriend who wanted me to write her song, so as a joke, I tuned my guitar to B Standard (i think you can see where this is going), and just played some really fast galloping death metal riffs
Posted by: MickeM Feb 22 2008, 08:32 PM
I don't have time for girlfriends. Wife, kids and guitarplaying is more than enough to keep my schedule full.
Posted by: coffeeman Feb 22 2008, 08:34 PM
Awesome man , it would be great if we could hear that song.
I did write a song for my ex girlfriend, and when she heard it she told me she didn't want any songs from hell , that she wanted I really nice tropical song (view my last post).
Posted by: The Uncreator Feb 22 2008, 08:35 PM
It was just Improv really
I think i ended up playing a few riffs from Amon Amarth's Pursuit Of Vikings though 
Posted by: SLASH91 Feb 22 2008, 09:26 PM
I'll usually play my classical guitar for the ladies...but every once in while I can't help but play some really heavy riff or shreddy solo. It's actually impressed a few, surprisingly
Posted by: Pavel Feb 22 2008, 09:46 PM
Is that why you said "HAD" instead "HAVE"?
Posted by: The Uncreator Feb 22 2008, 10:09 PM
^
Haha!
You caught it, Yes that could be it!
She didnt have much of a sense of humour, Thing was though, she once asked me to play a slow solo, so i did some Blind Guardian/ Rhapsody of Fire type stuff, and she is like "That is just weird"
No pleasing her i tell ya!
Posted by: kevin-riff-after-riff Feb 22 2008, 11:05 PM
this can be solved by putting your phone on loud speakers so you can still hear her and go "mm hmm" at the appropriate moments, coz she doesnt really want u to talk, she just want u to listen
Posted by: Juan M. Valero Feb 22 2008, 11:41 PM
that's a great trick !!!
Posted by: Toni Suominen Feb 23 2008, 12:07 AM
I actually recorded a couple of ballady type recordings a year or so ago to my girlfriend, and she has been happy about me playing the guitar ever since
Posted by: Stevie·Ray·Vaughn Feb 23 2008, 12:17 AM
We have much to learn from you
Posted by: Fran Feb 23 2008, 12:19 AM
The other day I told my girlfriend I was going to get a shredneck to take it on our summer vacation on the plane so I could practice some time at the hotel/beach... well, she said that I'd have to choose about going on vacation with her OR with the shredneck!!!
Tough choice!!
Oh well, I guess I'll survive those guitar-less vacations
Posted by: Pavel Feb 23 2008, 01:01 PM
Tough choice!!
Oh well, I guess I'll survive those guitar-less vacations
I was hoping you picked the shredneck instead of her
Posted by: The Uncreator Feb 23 2008, 02:35 PM
In the long run i have a feeling he might have regretted that
Posted by: Twibeard Feb 23 2008, 03:20 PM
A man should never be enslaved by any woman ...
Some women will try to manipulate you to think that you need them, "or else" - truth is - if thats the case - then she dont really love you, and you will loose your mind in the end ... so chose wisely ... Do what YOU love man and be honest about it. A woman that loves you sinserely, will be wise and enjoy, and she will know that you will be together forever and to eternity, if you both are free, happy and creative beings ...
The Old-timer
Posted by: Andrew Cockburn Feb 23 2008, 04:21 PM
Some women will try to manipulate you to think that you need them, "or else" - truth is - if thats the case - then she dont really love you, and you will loose your mind in the end ... so chose wisely ... Do what YOU love man and be honest about it. A woman that loves you sinserely, will be wise and enjoy, and she will know that you will be together forever and to eternity, if you both are free, happy and creative beings ...
The Old-timer
And in the interests of equality, that applies equally the opposite way around ...
Posted by: Twibeard Feb 23 2008, 05:04 PM
Ofcause!
Posted by: dusty Feb 24 2008, 12:44 PM
Ha Ha
Wait until you get married and have kids. my wife complians i love the guitar more than her, my little boy is always pestering me to have a go when i am playing, and my little girl stands in front of me trying to grab the strings (shes just learning to stand up). but that said i would not change it for the world. but then agian i do look forward to the rare days when i have the house to my self.
Dusty
Posted by: Twibeard Feb 24 2008, 02:05 PM
Wait until you get married and have kids.
You really need to draw a Line in the Sand Man 
Posted by: Spreedmaster Feb 26 2008, 10:18 PM
My girlfriend doesn't mind at all if I spend half my time playing the guitar, as most of the time shes drawing or painting something as shes in art college and is also an aspiring illustrater/manga artist. When I was bored the other day I started playing scales and sweeps with the delay up full trying to annoy her, but instead she started recording it saying it would make a great backing track for some animations she was working on! (you know those weird arty ones that make no sense! )
Posted by: g-forcelover Feb 26 2008, 10:31 PM
my girlfriend dosn't mind me playing guitar all the time. she likes it, until i practice Muris' fast country solo.
Posted by: Bogdan Feb 26 2008, 11:11 PM
Mine does not have problems because of me playing..I practice in my free time, also I go to a lot of gigs that take a lot of time..But its cool with her..
Posted by: rokchik Feb 27 2008, 01:00 AM
Ahhh relationships....you'll never win boys Just kidding.....kind of
But seriously I have to agree with Twibeard about not being enslaved....by either men or women. It's just not healthy and will only lead to problems down the road. I'm all for spending as much time with your signifigant other but you need your own time too. I know tons of women and men who get all bent out of shape when their partner is doing something without them or is spending to much time at something. I say as long as they aren't spending all their time with someone else it's all good. This is your time to find something that you like doing on your own.....if you don't like being alone well you have bigger problems and I can't help you.
My boyfriend is big into dirt bikes and skidoos. I use to refer to myself as a "motorcycle/skidoo widow" actually as he's gone on bike all summer and on skidoo all winter. Now I'll be honest at first I was a bit mad as he was gone all the time, but then I realized this was something he loved to do and I loved him so I was just gonna have to deal. With this I figured it was either find a hobby or a second boyfriend...I chose a hobby....less messy and not so complicated I bought a guitar and started to learn how to play during the time he was out riding. It worked out perfect. I bought a skidoo last year as well so now we have a mutual interest....couples who play together stay together right?
rok
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