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Betrayed, My family is falling apart...any advice
ActiveX
Feb 28 2008, 06:44 PM
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I just found out that my wife has been cheating on me. Things with her have not been good for a while
and now I know why. I thought we were trying to work things out...she told me that she
wanted to fix our relationship, but yet she was still seeing someone else behind my back.
Just a few days ago, she was still denying that she was doing anything,
but then I found the smoking gun. She has been lying to me for years, and I don't understand
how someone can say they love you, and then lie to your face every single day. I also
found out that the people she has been hanging around are not good people, and are into some
very bad things.I'm worried that she is exposing our kids to the wrong type of people (5 year old son, 3 year old daughter).
So I took the kids and left...we are at my parents house right now. Has anyone else ever gone
through anything like this, how did you handle it, how long until the hurt goes away, how
long until I can trust someone again.

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at lights end
Feb 28 2008, 07:05 PM
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ouch.
i can't really help you there, but i feel for you man.
i hope you get through it ok.

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Robwylde
Feb 28 2008, 07:13 PM
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I'm sorry to he this. I've never gone through that, but if the people are bad you did the right thing on getting your kids out. Hang tight and know things will work out. Your pain is real, but time will soften your heartache. Be there for your kids and know we're here for you.

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Ivan Milenkovic
Feb 28 2008, 07:27 PM
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I'm very sorry to hear that man. Be strong for your kids and your family!

PS What's a smoking gun? Is your wife maybe having a drug problem?

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Feb 28 2008, 08:06 PM
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smoking gun means caught in the act.

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David Wallimann
Feb 28 2008, 08:09 PM
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QUOTE (ActiveX @ Feb 28 2008, 12:44 PM) *
I just found out that my wife has been cheating on me. Things with her have not been good for a while
and now I know why. I thought we were trying to work things out...she told me that she
wanted to fix our relationship, but yet she was still seeing someone else behind my back.
Just a few days ago, she was still denying that she was doing anything,
but then I found the smoking gun. She has been lying to me for years, and I don't understand
how someone can say they love you, and then lie to your face every single day. I also
found out that the people she has been hanging around are not good people, and are into some
very bad things.I'm worried that she is exposing our kids to the wrong type of people (5 year old son, 3 year old daughter).
So I took the kids and left...we are at my parents house right now. Has anyone else ever gone
through anything like this, how did you handle it, how long until the hurt goes away, how
long until I can trust someone again.


I'm so sorry to hear that my friend.
I don't have much advice but know that I feel your difficult moment.
Will keep you and the kids in prayer.

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Chris Evans
Feb 28 2008, 08:18 PM
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Stay strong mate, look after them kids, they are the most important thing here.

Its gutting when someone you trust stabs you through the heart like this, I cant offer you any advice, hang in there mate, you will get through this I promise if you stay focused on the right things.

Good luck I wish all the best

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Pi38
Feb 28 2008, 08:26 PM
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Really sorry to hear that. Hang in there though. You never know what tomorrow might bring.

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Feb 28 2008, 08:31 PM
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Dude honestly best of luck, im sorry but i hope everything gets better for you.

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Feb 28 2008, 08:50 PM
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That's really awful, man, I'm sorry sad.gif

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Feb 28 2008, 08:55 PM
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That sucks man. But keep your kids away and don't go back with her if she has no regard for your feelings. There are decent women out there and you deserve one.

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Feb 28 2008, 09:10 PM
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I'm afraid you'll have to hide your feelings to a certain extent for the sake of your kids. Changes at that age can have a big effect on kids. I know you probably don't want to even see your ex at the moment, but if there's a chance she can get back on the right track, kids need a mum.

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Feb 28 2008, 09:40 PM
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QUOTE (Duncan @ Feb 28 2008, 03:10 PM) *
kids need a mum.

not that kind. i REALLY hate these kinds of people. they dont give a flying F#$% about anyone but themselves. if this was the first time, id say give her a second chance. but since its not, hang her out to dry. dry.gif

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Feb 28 2008, 09:45 PM
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That sucks man... sad.gif

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Feb 28 2008, 10:05 PM
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I feel for you man, I really do, that must be gut wrenching.

If this has been going on for YEARS I certainly would not take her at her word she was going to improve. Were it I, I'd hang her out to dry as recommended, but I'm also prideful to a fault.

Keep the kids in mind. it is very likely she gets her act together when she realizes that she stands a very good chance of losing custody of kids.

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FretDancer69
Feb 28 2008, 10:10 PM
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Im sorry to hear this man. I cant give you any good advice since im only 17, but i think you did the right thing by taking your kids and moving. I think it would be good if you just focus on your kids right now, they are whats most important now i believe. About the heartache, it will dissapear by time.

QUOTE (OrganisedConfusion @ Feb 28 2008, 01:55 PM) *
That sucks man. But keep your kids away and don't go back with her if she has no regard for your feelings. There are decent women out there and you deserve one.


I Agree, find yourself a new woman, a good one. You deserve one.

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Feb 28 2008, 10:23 PM
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I'm very sorry to hear that dude, but you gotta be strong now for your kids, just hang in there

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Feb 28 2008, 11:22 PM
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I'm really sorry to hear that man sad.gif i can understand how you feel, because i had a similair moment too, my ex girlfriend was cheating on me too, it was the last few weeks before we broke up, but this is a bigger problem because there are 2 kids, im really sorry for you.

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QUOTE (Milenkovic Ivan @ Feb 28 2008, 07:27 PM) *
I'm very sorry to hear that man. Be strong for your kids and your family!

PS What's a smoking gun? Is your wife maybe having a drug problem?


Smoking gun is an english expression used to mean something along the lines of "Caught in the act," basically getting caught.

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Ivan Milenkovic
Feb 29 2008, 01:49 AM
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I'm sorry for misinterpreted.

Again I feel very bad about you and your kids especially. Take care of them man!

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