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Dec 19 2007, 07:00 PM
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I have an on-going conversation with my wife as to what we would like and what we would accept for and from our little girl when she's around about your age Pavel.
Neither me nor my wife are overly materialistic and don't place too much value on possessions, a high wage, career etc. I packed in a relatively well paid career many years ago as I didn't enjoy the job. We prefer to place our emphasis on happiness, with the caveat being that in our modern society you need a minimum income to achieve this. We've spent a fair bit of time working out what our break even point is and how we can match it with work that we want to do. It has however meant giving up a lot of things that we used to take for granted. We also had to work out various contingency plans as there is a breakpoint which we will not go below. I dare say that only you can know what level of income might make you happy. I would say that lack of money, particularly if you're materialistic, can make a person unhappy. Lots of money however won't necessarily make you happy. We have lots of friends and family who have high incomes who are not happy. There are also lots of ways to find personal fulfillment - and they're not all about career and income. At the moment our daughter says she wants to be an artist and that's fine by us if it makes her happy (last month she wanted to be a vet and that was fine too). But we would also require that she studies so that she has enough income to be safe - that is that she has food, medical care, accommodation etc. So as a parent, as an absolute minimum, I would want her to be able to convince me that she would be happy and safe. (Our ideal is somewhat higher then this of course and the closer to the ideal she gets the more comfortable I am. Our ideal is that she attends and graduates at Masters or PhD level from a major international University and then travels and sees some of the world before settling in to a career choice and family life. I might say that I tend to believe that a Masters is nowadays required as an entry qualification if you don't have considerable work experience. Most of Western Europe has undergraduate completion rates for youths in the 40-60% range, so a Masters helps you 'stand out from the crowd'. ) As part of this I'd want some reassurance that whatever she decided to do wasn't going to be a short term thing that lasts for a few months/years before being usurped by something else. Here I would also want her to convince me that whatever she chose would not reduce her options of other things in the future unreasonably. Now here I would say that completing your course does not stop you becoming a musician later on BUT not completing and dropping out now could limit your options to do many other things later on. I'm sure you've had lots of conversations with your mum about this but generally. Now as much as all parents want the world for their children parents are usually pragmatic enough to realise that isn't possible. What may help here is to consider what she would see as her minimum and her ideal standard for you, compare it with yours and then see if you can reach a compromise? Best of luck. Cheers, Tony -------------------- Get your music professionally mastered by anl AES registered Mastering Engineer. Contact me for Audio Mastering Services and Advice and visit our website www.miromastering.com
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Dec 19 2007, 08:24 PM
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Thanks guys!
 One important thing i forgot to mention is that i am not planning on quitting my university, just delaying the exams for 1 year. Before this i really wanted to quit the uni but after long fights with my mom i agreed to finish it off. We also agreed that i will not finish it this summer as i have a lot of stuff going on with guitar which is way more important to me personally than university. now - she wants me to give all the exams and get a degree THIS SUMMER which is ridiculous and almost impossible considering i still want to practice guitar and work at GMC. It may be easy to say: "Well, don't do lessons at GMC for now!" but it's the only source of income i have and i never ask my parents for money because i earn it here. My mom would never buy me a 2000$ guitar because she doesn't earn that much and i never asked her to do it - now i can do it myself but now it's AGAIN not good enough for her  I am not saying that she is hungry for money because she is not -> she just spent 1500$ on my first car even if i told her i will pay it myself but she still gave me her money. In the end - when i sum everything up - i just don't understand what she wants. oh, and - we had MILLIONS of conversations I told her i will finish my education and even start working if i get a good opportunity but her plans for me change every week - it's getting SO irritating and impossible to coupe with Thanks for your posts!
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Basically, what I like to think when it comes to these important choices, is not what's best for me, etc, but I'll try to make the choice that I won't regret in the future. And, if I were in your shoes, I'd finish of Uni (with a masters degree) and then put 100% into trying to make it with a musical carrer.
 
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