Life is full of things like pain, discomfort, anxiety, doubt and fear. The kind of things that we would prefer not to experience and often do our best to avoid. But in order to move forward, to grow, to achieve new heights of performance or success in any endeavour, we have to accept these unpleasant sensations because they are part of the experience.
Whenever we do something, or think about doing something, that is new and/or unknown to us we're on shaky ground. All of a sudden, that stability we take for granted isn't there any more. We're taking a step into no man's land where there is no guarantee of anything. As a species we generally fear the unknown and change. But in order to make discoveries and progress we have had to overcome these inbuilt inhibitions.
A part of our brain called the amygdala can perceive unknown situations as a threat, hence delivering all these unpleasant feelings into our systems. Whilst this is useful for alerting you to the fact that there's a tiger on the loose and if you want to live you'd better run or hide FAST, it's not quite as appropriate a response for when you're thinking about changing jobs or speaking in public. Nevertheless, our brain can still perceive certain situations, which are trivial in comparison to life or death situations as a possible threat to our person. Modern life has added more facets to the threat possibilities such as threat to our image, our ego, our social standing, our wealth... all of these contribute in some way to our survival in this world so they all can trigger that same threat response.
So when you've got butterflies in your stomach at the thought of doing something that isn't that scary in reality, it's not because you're a coward. It's not necessarily that you're afraid. It's just the bodies response to a situation that is currently outside of your comfort zone ie: the unknown. And as we know, the unknown is a possible threat until proven otherwise. Logic itself cannot always pierce this barrier. We may know that logically there's nothing to fear in giving a speech or going to audition for something but the emotionally unpleasant feelings go beyond logic. This cerebral response is a connection we have to our earliest ancestors and non human species.
We know why we get these discouraging feelings but we somehow have to accept them, push past them and do the activity in order to reduce the trepidation that we feel about it. Next time we may be less concerned but still a bit nervous. Eventually we may feel as calm as a pond. Our comfort zone possibly expands to include this new activity if it's something we do consistently and regularly. But whenever we go into the unknown we will again experience that cocktail of fear and trepidation.
This is a necessary part of the process in getting what we want. If you want something more than what is currently at your disposal then you are required to somehow get it by either training, studying, practising, searching, basically working hard in some way in order to get it. But it will not be easy because your brain is trying to keep you in the safe zone by flooding you with a cocktail of fear. This is when people dip their toe in and then give up after the first bit of hardship. But it's got to be hard. The reward has to be hard won. That's how we've evolved over the years to become what we are today.
As our own Todd 'T-Master' Simpson loves to remind you young shred disciples; EARN IT.
Comfort is nice but remind yourself that
no progress was ever made in the comfort zone.So when was the last time you really had to go out of your comfort zone ? What was it for and what did you get out of it ?
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