Serious Stuff Happened, I Need Help, :( im not trying to sound like a little girl :( |
, and well im having some tragic things happen in my life right now, and i didnt want to go on to google, and find forums so i can talk to people about my problems, and hopefully get an answer, so i decided maybe ill get some good things comming from this forum 
, and well my g/f came over WEDENSDAY MAY 10TH, 2007 to see how i was doing, and well yea know im not doing to well, and she ended up skipping her first hour of class to be with me, well her parents followed her to my house, and then had some1 follow her to her school, and she got caught...well that day also this kid levi (WHO DOESNT EVEN KNOW ME) told her parents (levi is my g/f's 2nd cousin) THAT I WAS THE BIGGEST DRUGGIE IN SCHOOL what the heck, i know i did drugs a while back, like a long itme ago, but he doesnt know me and told her parents that  |
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May 12 2007, 09:17 AM
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OK man, now THAT sucks! I am sorry about you! I can say that my parents are divourced (correct the spelling) and it is hard to decide wether you want to be with father or mother - i had loads of parent's fights over 2 years so in the end it was the same to me i just wanted the fights to stop!
Ok - now - the g/f: - i am not a big expert but i believe if we give you some ground for thinking you'll finally get to decision, right? so here we go: To solve a problem you need to talk and have advice from someone - so - i know this is easy to say BUT you have to go to her parents and face them, talk to them, explain them you are not a junkie - if they want, prove it with drug-tests. Your parents: - divources are something that happens to millions of people each day - and you can't do anything here. You have a specific problem - your dad!! Again - talk to him - help him to understand the situation. When you and your dad are alone in the house just sit down with him and ask him simple things: "Why did you do it?", "What are your ideas of future life?", "Suicide is not a solution - you only live 1 life, you have 2 sons - so your life is pretty successful. But there are things you have to change and i will help you to change them!", "If you need me - i'll move to another house with you to help you!" - These are kind of things you should talk about! YOU HAVE TO TALK ABOUT THEM! 1 on 1 Ok, if i think of anything else i'll add a post. Btw. at this moment - screw guitar - family is the most important thing! Let the guitar go until you solve atleast 1 of the problems. I really hope this is gonna help atleast 0.5% !!! Good luck m8! -------------------- "It isn't how many years you have been playing, it's how many hours." -- Prashant Aswani "PRACTICE, PRACTICE, PRACTICE!" -- Michael Angelo Batio Check out my video lessons and instructor board! |
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May 12 2007, 12:34 PM
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EDIT: Deleted and sent as PM instead
This post has been edited by MickeM: May 12 2007, 02:01 PM -------------------- My bands homepage
All time favourites: B. Streisand - Woman in Love, M. Hopkin - Those were the days, L. Richie - Hello |
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, so i really dotn know which is worse 
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May 14 2007, 07:39 AM
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Graduate hs. Get a student loan, make sure you apply and get whatever grant money you can get. Make sure you find out. Enroll at K-State or KU or some other state college, and get away from that situation. I would not do any drugs for anything, ever, under any circumstances. you now see how much good drug use does anybody. I could show you my college transcripts, where I quit smoking grass, and started again, and quit. and that was just grass. You can see that clearly in my grades. Seriously, adults take care of their children, forget that other way around bit, up to your old man to pull himself out. He is an adult, does not need for you to be shouldering this. This was pure selfishness on his part. self-destructive selfishness, but selfishness. Your life is long. While you may think that gf was the one, the odds of that being so are maybe 1/1000, statistically. Very few that I knew at that age stayed together, very very uncommon. People just don't settle down that quickly, such is life. Nothing wrong with that. Sure you love her. It changes 999 out of 1000 times, such is planet earth. Are you going to win the lottery? Could happen. Not sensible to think it is likely. Don't let this screw up your life guy, you have to pull yourself out of this mess, and you are going to have to make the effort. You have no choice. If anyone around you wants to be a screw up, well that is their call. You have to take care of yourself first, that is the only way you will be any good for anybody else. don't ever let yourself be dependent on anyone, and that includes a girlfriend. nothing good can come out of it. You take care of yourself, and the rest will take care of itself. You don't take care of yourself, and nothing is going to work out worth a darn. Such is life.
Get out of that crazy situation in a sensible fashion, and don't look back. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_M5Yh9Vl-PQ This post has been edited by fkalich: May 14 2007, 08:09 AM |
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May 14 2007, 08:53 AM
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QUOTE (Ryan @ May 14 2007, 09:29 AM)  well fkalich, i see where your coming from with the 1/1000 thing but guess what...............me adn her are that 1....no doubts about it..and id really appreciate it if you dont tell me what i think...because guess what again...I "KNOW" SHES THE 1...and i would put my life on it, because if she left me..or i left her...there would be no life for either of us..we would just die..literally..im never gonna leave her..and honestly..were the best couple in the world..and were alrdy pretty much married..its just not on paper!!!!!...and the thing with my dad...thats getting better..im not so worried aobu that now..but now i have found a way to see my g/f...every night now...(she lives in another tonw..about 10 mins away) im gonna drive to her house aroudn 11pm..and stay there outside her window for a longgg time...EVERY SINGLE NIGHT TILL SHE TUNRS 18...just so i can see her and talk to her... Sure bud, stick to your girlfriend, you shouldn't give love up because of statistics. Just make sure that sitting outside her window don't go against her perants wishes, they will find out and that will put you guys in an even worse spot. May be they are afraid to let their girl be around your dad if they know he does drugs. Bad environment for her, for any kid for that matter. Mark my words when I say your dad needs help. If drugs got him stuck he will sacrifice anything and anyone to do them, just if he knows you will put him in rehab or if he ses it hurt you he will find ways to do it even more secretly. It's a lot of responsibility for a yourng man like yourself to deal with, but make sure the help he gets is professional and do what you can to support him. But if things go wrong, it's never ever your fault. -------------------- My bands homepage
All time favourites: B. Streisand - Woman in Love, M. Hopkin - Those were the days, L. Richie - Hello |
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