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TreyDeschamp
post Jul 13 2008, 05:31 AM
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Hey everyone. I'm very confused on this one.

A girl just sent me this message

Dear Trey,

Basically she said she loved me I dont want her personal letter on her like MickeM suggested

Guys(and girls) I'm very confused on what to do?
Please help

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post Jul 13 2008, 05:41 AM
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Well, what do YOU feel about her?

You can't just go out with her again if you have no feelings for her. It will just make the relationship very hollow and empty.

If you truly do not want her as a gf, then I suggest you tell her how you feel.

Of course, you could also give the relationship another try... who knows, things might be different.

But as the letter portrays, she loves you, and you being with her will make her happy, but would it also make you happy?


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post Jul 13 2008, 05:45 AM
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QUOTE (VinceG @ Jul 12 2008, 11:41 PM) *
Well, what do YOU feel about her?

You can't just go out with her again if you have no feelings for her. It will just make the relationship very hollow and empty.

If you truly do not want her as a gf, then I suggest you tell her how you feel.

Of course, you could also give the relationship another try... who knows, things might be different.

But as the letter portrays, she loves you, and you being with her will make her happy, but would it also make you happy?


Well thats the thing....IM 13! I know for a fact I dont love anyone! Not yet. I'm not ready for love. I do still like her a little but I dont want to go out again....personally it was hell. Shes sorta preppy and her friends judged me and basically know me as my ex-gf goth ex-boyfriend(I'm not goth I just like metal). I dont know I told her a still liked her a little but I would rather be friends for now and that we will see what the future holds but I'm just unsure on how to handle this.


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post Jul 13 2008, 06:05 AM
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Oh your 13, you'll be fine then. She'll move on eventually. Trust me man, don't get too wrapped up in middle school/high school relationships.


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post Jul 13 2008, 07:31 AM
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She's just got a crush on you, don't make it worse that it is, just leave her be if you don't like to date her so much. She'll get over it faster if you stand aside.


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post Jul 13 2008, 01:49 PM
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QUOTE (Ivan Milenkovic @ Jul 13 2008, 01:31 AM) *
She's just got a crush on you, don't make it worse that it is, just leave her be if you don't like to date her so much. She'll get over it faster if you stand aside.


Yeah but I dont want be mean to her and just ignore her.


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post Jul 13 2008, 02:04 PM
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QUOTE (TreyDeschamp @ Jul 13 2008, 06:31 AM) *
Guys(and girls) I'm very confused on what to do?
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What to do? First off, I think you shouldn't put her personal letter on the Internet sad.gif

She opened up to you, you got to talk to her. You owe her that much at least.


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post Jul 13 2008, 02:07 PM
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QUOTE (MickeM @ Jul 13 2008, 08:04 AM) *
What to do? First off, I think you shouldn't put her personal letter on the Internet sad.gif

She opened up to you, you got to talk to her. You owe her that much at least.


Guess your right I need to make a little adjusment(i dont think i spelled that right) to my first post


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post Jul 13 2008, 02:12 PM
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QUOTE (TreyDeschamp @ Jul 13 2008, 03:07 PM) *
Guess your right I need to make a little adjusment(i dont think i spelled that right) to my first post

Imo that's the respectful thing to do smile.gif

And I think you expressed what you feel in the other posts here, let her hear the same thing. I just have this little spider sense warning me that her friends seem to want to stick their nose in your business a bit too much and no matter what they think of you - they may turn on you when/if you let her down.


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post Jul 13 2008, 02:17 PM
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QUOTE (MickeM @ Jul 13 2008, 08:12 AM) *
Imo that's the respectful thing to do smile.gif

And I think you expressed what you feel in the other posts here, let her hear the same thing. I just have this little spider sense warning me that her friends seem to want to stick their nose in your business a bit too much and no matter what they think of you - they may turn on you when/if you let her down.


That's already happened. I just wanted to be friends with her when we first went out because I couldnt stand her friends constanly messaging me on myspace saying "We dont thin your righ!" "Your emo...." etc. and I'm really not any of those. I've tolde her this and she just gets mad because its her friends.


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post Jul 13 2008, 04:10 PM
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QUOTE (TreyDeschamp @ Jul 13 2008, 06:45 AM) *
Well thats the thing....IM 13! I know for a fact I dont love anyone! Not yet. I'm not ready for love. I do still like her a little but I dont want to go out again....personally it was hell. Shes sorta preppy and her friends judged me and basically know me as my ex-gf goth ex-boyfriend(I'm not goth I just like metal). I dont know I told her a still liked her a little but I would rather be friends for now and that we will see what the future holds but I'm just unsure on how to handle this.


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post Jul 14 2008, 07:29 PM
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Imo being friends is good enough when you're 13-16. After 16 (Or even after 17 or 18) then think about some kind of relationship with someone. And... you're metal, she's preppy. This should never get in the way but it does trust me.


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