Guitar Practicing Problem..., from an unlikely source. |
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Guitar Practicing Problem..., from an unlikely source. |
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Oct 17 2008, 06:29 PM |
I understand totally what you're saying - lets just call it a difference between men & women to avoid causing offence. In my experience communication itself is important to Women, and the subject less so - its a kind of bonding thing for them.
By practicing while you are talking to her you are robbing her of something she considers important even though you do not - there is no fault here, this is just an example of men & women wanting slightly different things out of life and relationships. Bottom line is that if she thinks you are neglecting her, and you value the relationship you will have to change your behavior a little. If the guitar is more important to you, then that's also a choice ... * DISCLAIMER * I don't pretend to understand women, but I have managed to stay married for 7 years so I am not an absolute beginner How about a female perspective on this? -------------------- Check out my Instructor profile
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Oct 17 2008, 06:43 PM |
I hope you could eventually solve the thing
by talking with her about the issue. Explain that she cannot fight the battle against the guitar, guitar is not human being and comparing herself with it just ain't working. I fully understand what are you saying, in 99% of cases I play guitar while I'm talking to my girlfriend on the phone,if I'm at home of course. Good thing is,long ago she understood that it's stronger then me and she always gives me a time to play,if I'm playing atm. Perhaps she realizes that on my priorities list guitar is probably on the 1st place, but once again it's nonsense to look at it that way. It's about understanding,music very often takes us away and we can't do much about it,she will have to understand that. -------------------- Youtube
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Oct 17 2008, 06:57 PM
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Uhm, I reallllllly like Muris's answer.
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Oct 17 2008, 07:16 PM |
Not to prologue the story, I would suggest just telling her when you will be practicing so you can turn off the phone at that time...Once you finish the session you will call her back (if you have missed calls)...Talking and playing guitar doesn't work for no one.Because you aren't really talking and aren't really practicing I'm sure she will understand , one more tip comes to my mind..Why don't YOU call her some time BEFORE the planned practice session..Do the phone call thing and than you'll be free to do your stuff...I don't think she will have the need to call you in the next couple of hours
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Oct 17 2008, 07:26 PM |
(I think I have a sickness) We all have the same sickness my friend - we understand! Oh one more thing... I'm getting a thrash metal band together and she told me if I don't have enough time for her she will leave me. I'm curious to see what will happen this weekend when we have our second rehersal... What will probably happen is that it will all come to a head, and you will both move forward one way or the other - decide what you want most so you are ready for it would be my final advice -------------------- Check out my Instructor profile
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Oct 17 2008, 07:43 PM |
Oh one more thing... I'm getting a thrash metal band together and she told me if I don't have enough time for her she will leave me. I'm curious to see what will happen this weekend when we have our second rehersal... Well I'm sure she will understand or you two will find time for being together...I mean she is with you ,and you didn't start playing guitar yesterday, so its part of you and who you are...I'm sure you do lots of stuff besides guitar , they all take up free time...She can't blame playing with a band or just playing guitar as the primary reason for you two not having enough time alone...Find a solution - pocket of time in which you are going to see each other..I'm sure its not that bad. -------------------- For GMC support please email support (at) guitarmasterclass.net
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Oct 17 2008, 09:22 PM |
Girls don't need that much to feel special, as they don't need much to feel neglected either. Straightforward honest conversation is important to girls, so you could at least show some respect about things she have to say to you. That's how I look at things anyway. I don't think your girl would like to listen to all of your stories as well, but she does, she doesn't sit in front of a TV or monitor screen, and saying yeah..mhm...right.. That is not a way to talk to any person, male or female. So just listen to what she has to say, and cheer up, girls are great.
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