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post Mar 5 2009, 02:19 AM
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all right, I've been going out with this girl for nearly 2 months now, I really like her, but latly we just havn't been talking as much, just kinda like, yeah. We don't hang out as much, all that stuff. Is it time to just end this now?


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post Mar 5 2009, 02:27 AM
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Not the perfect pro to advise you but, think about it...

Why don't you hang out as much? Lack of time? Lack of interest? Routine?

Why don't you talk anymore? Lack of subject? Lack of time? Lack of interesT?

2 months is not enough to meet a person, try to explore other fields with her, instead of talking about music (making an example) start talking about art, instead of going every day to the cinema, go to a restaurant.

Also, it doesn't need to be constant, remember you had a life before you met her, just balance it with it smile.gif

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post Mar 5 2009, 02:29 AM
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Well the best way to know this for sure is to talk with her, and try to keep it on a good conversational level.


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post Mar 5 2009, 02:55 AM
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QUOTE (Rated Htr @ Mar 4 2009, 08:27 PM) *
Not the perfect pro to advise you but, think about it...

Why don't you hang out as much? Lack of time? Lack of interest? Routine?

Why don't you talk anymore? Lack of subject? Lack of time? Lack of interesT?

2 months is not enough to meet a person, try to explore other fields with her, instead of talking about music (making an example) start talking about art, instead of going every day to the cinema, go to a restaurant.

Also, it doesn't need to be constant, remember you had a life before you met her, just balance it with it smile.gif

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Filipe

yeah, we dont hang out as much because of lack of interest, we don't really talk much anymore becasue of lack of subjects and lack of interest.


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post Mar 5 2009, 03:47 AM
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QUOTE (g-forcelover @ Mar 4 2009, 08:55 PM) *
yeah, we dont hang out as much because of lack of interest, we don't really talk much anymore becasue of lack of subjects and lack of interest.


^----- You said lack of interest twice in one post ... I think you already know the answer!


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post Mar 5 2009, 03:55 AM
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QUOTE (Andrew Cockburn @ Mar 4 2009, 09:47 PM) *
^----- You said lack of interest twice in one post ... I think you already know the answer!

oh wow, i guess your right. now I have to idea what to do still to get back some intrest


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post Mar 5 2009, 12:30 PM
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QUOTE (g-forcelover @ Mar 5 2009, 02:55 AM) *
oh wow, i guess your right. now I have to idea what to do still to get back some intrest


well it depends on who has the "lack" of interest, you or her?

Sometimes relationships dont last the distance, thats just part of life, I`m no expert and I didnt have heaps of g/f`s when I was younger, but I had a couple that just fizzled out like this, no particular reason, just did, I`d stop phoning , she`d stop phoning, and before ya knew it it was a couple of weeks down the line, I guess they just wernt meant to be.

I personally would say that if after a couple of months (and in the words of a famous song) "The thrill has gone" then its probably time to just move one, and not rack your brains trying to inject ideas, Interest and energy into something that possibly in another couple of months would start down the same road again, remember it takes two to tango smile.gif

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post Mar 5 2009, 01:23 PM
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If you guys don't hang out anymore and don't talk anymore, then there is not much to end, right?
If it's important to you just take time and effort to develop a deeper relationship, if not then things will naturally end just as they seem to right now.
No matter what, juts make sure to stay in good terms and both be considerate of each other.
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post Apr 20 2009, 01:31 PM
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Man I like masterclass more and more everyday. You guys are even advising about relationships...

Where is the blind date section, I'd like to sign up :-)


mister g-force, if you're unsure about this relationship, just pick up your guitar and play something you ARE sure about. Wondering about it and asking for advise won't solve it, unless you talk to her about it; and in that conversation you will notice if it 'll be the last time you seen her or not. If you do like her too much to let go, write a song for her and she'll be all over you. You 'll even have more to talk about if you talk about the thoughts you've just told us... but I'm probably too late and you'll probably have another girlfriend already.

advise: don't let them get to your mind, the girls, don't think too much about it, because love is all about feeling, and feeling don't make sense to brain... something like that... nah don't listen to me, I also don't make much sense to brain


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post Apr 20 2009, 02:09 PM
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If you are putting too much effort in to it and having to work at communicating with each other after only a couple of months then it sounds like you should be looking elsewhere. for the first few months or even first couple of years things should just flow naturally in a relationship, no effort involved, then after that you can enjoy the comfortable silences with out the akwardness.
i have been married ten years and i am never happier than when my wife is silent around me, shame she has to spoil it by talking tongue.gif , but seriously if you are having to work at generating the interest in the relationship ask your self if she is matching the effort, if not then move on.
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