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Pedja Simovic
post Mar 27 2009, 02:12 PM
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All the things point out that she is not right girl for you. She might be cheating on you already or just flirting and messing with other guys.
Sending text messages to your best friend, and admitting that she likes him ?
I don't know what you are waiting for really. This should be obvious choice smile.gif

Plenty of girls around (remember more girls than guys on whole planet) so just move on and don't feel too bad about it. If she is doing the same its time you change your attitude towards her wink.gif


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post Mar 27 2009, 03:02 PM
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Hm .. i have to admin i disagree a tiny little bit with some thoughts. Sorry, i don't want say any opinion is wrong, but maybe my view can help to balance things out a bit smile.gif ..

Of course it happens sometimes to question the "status" of a relationship. Maybe the interaction with each other is going through changes or what ever, but based on "friends" talk to prepare already every scenario in your head is in my opinion "fast food" to feat jealousy. It is maybe a good preparation to avoid to be taken by surprise, but there is a high risk of not seeing things objective anymore. For example to read these messages between your girlfriend on your friend in a certain way.

My stand point to my partner is to have complete loyalty and back her up on everything. I would more question these "friends" instead of having doubts in my partner. This maybe seems to be blind in some ways, but i'm convinced that this way of thinking gives my partner an secure environment, which should be the basic of every relationship!

A lot of relationships end because of misunderstandings or different views or limits within a relationship. Still in love they get separated, because these questions have been discussed too late or in an already unstable situation.

My advise would be, if you are in love and she gives you the feeling being in love as well .. then you should start talking to your friends !! Be careful to not turn your back to the person you love based on manipulation from other people.

It is impossible to build an real opinion about your story, but i think it is not right to give advise to finish the relationship based on these small details you gave at the beginning.

Good luck and i hope everything turns out well for you !! smile.gif








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post Mar 27 2009, 03:15 PM
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well hey,


is her best friend cute?


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post Mar 27 2009, 03:48 PM
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QUOTE (Marc_Maiden @ Mar 27 2009, 03:15 PM) *
well hey,


is her best friend cute?



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post Mar 27 2009, 04:50 PM
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Man, this brings me back. I dated a crazy/slutty one for about a year, but I put up with it because man was she HOT!

People always told me the same thing. Although I never believed them because she wasn't a slut with me (lol). Anyways, I was throwing a party one night and caught her kissing some dude... in front of everyone. Well I over reacted and set him home missing some teeth and a bloody shirt. Cuz I had egg on my face, and I had realized at that moment that everything that people tried to tell me was true.

This is NOT the option you want to employ. A relationship is supposed to be fun man, I would just end it before things escalate. Even if she says she isn't those things, people aren't going to stop telling you that. And in my opinion, it isn't worth the hassle.

There are lots of girls out there that you NEVER have to worry about stuff like this from. Good luck bud.


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post Mar 27 2009, 05:15 PM
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QUOTE (VinceG @ Mar 26 2009, 11:15 PM) *
When you talk to her, does she sound kind of defensive about it? I think the best way is to really have a heart to heart talk about it. Hell, if she keeps ignoring (by that I mean manipulating you into choosing to "believe" her or the people) the subject, then I think something is up. Once you can believe her truly after the talk, then you will know yourself what to do. Don't do the sneaking around thing man, your just looking for things. Just be straight up with her.



Always and it is reallly starting to bother me.

QUOTE (Sircraigery @ Mar 27 2009, 10:50 AM) *
Man, this brings me back. I dated a crazy/slutty one for about a year, but I put up with it because man was she HOT!

People always told me the same thing. Although I never believed them because she wasn't a slut with me (lol). Anyways, I was throwing a party one night and caught her kissing some dude... in front of everyone. Well I over reacted and set him home missing some teeth and a bloody shirt. Cuz I had egg on my face, and I had realized at that moment that everything that people tried to tell me was true.

This is NOT the option you want to employ. A relationship is supposed to be fun man, I would just end it before things escalate. Even if she says she isn't those things, people aren't going to stop telling you that. And in my opinion, it isn't worth the hassle.

There are lots of girls out there that you NEVER have to worry about stuff like this from. Good luck bud.


Thanks man its just confusing....lately she has been sorta distant like she is upset about something. It is starting to bother me so much.....gah! Its starting to make me want to go into a psycho ward.


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post Mar 28 2009, 12:11 AM
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QUOTE (TreyDeschamp @ Mar 27 2009, 05:15 PM) *
Thanks man its just confusing....lately she has been sorta distant like she is upset about something. It is starting to bother me so much.....gah! Its starting to make me want to go into a psycho ward.


Sounds like you've got your answer man. Chicks are always distant when someone has happened and they want to tell you but can't. Girls are a different breed, they can say one thing and mean something completely different. Either way, hounding her about isn't going to help (I've tried that too, another bad idea). She'll get sour on you quickly even if she hasn't been cheating.

You've got the gut feeling for a reason. Unless you've had this same feeling with every girl, than it probably has some significance. If your not happy with the amount of respect she gives you it's time to find another lady. Life it too short for this stuff, find a girl that makes you feel special instead worthless.

You could play games in this relationship for a while to find out the truth, or invest that time in someone else. Hope you get it sorted.


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post Mar 28 2009, 01:11 AM
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QUOTE (TreyDeschamp @ Mar 27 2009, 05:15 PM) *
Always and it is reallly starting to bother me.



Thanks man its just confusing....lately she has been sorta distant like she is upset about something. It is starting to bother me so much.....gah! Its starting to make me want to go into a psycho ward.


Tell her the truth and tell her that there is no reason for her to be upset. Why would she be upset anyway?? She should approach this thing with calm and help you with your problem. The girl who is acting that way is possibly not worthy of your time. Think about what are the things that are really currently holding you together? wink.gif


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post Mar 28 2009, 01:32 AM
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QUOTE (Ivan Milenkovic @ Mar 27 2009, 06:11 PM) *
Tell her the truth and tell her that there is no reason for her to be upset. Why would she be upset anyway?? She should approach this thing with calm and help you with your problem. The girl who is acting that way is possibly not worthy of your time. Think about what are the things that are really currently holding you together? wink.gif


Well the thing I found to day is we sort of did some stuff.... :/ and she has been upset because she felt that we shouldnt but I feel the same way. I just feel like a ass now because I feel like I pressured her into it. I have noticed though that its really upsetting her these people telling me stuff and for some reason I want to believe her because I think she is telling the truth but I dont know if it is my mind wanting me to believe this.


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post Mar 28 2009, 05:47 PM
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there are two very well known certainties in life and that is death and taxes, the third one however is that chicks aint nothin but trouble. the irony is that we men will do anything we can to avoid the first two but perversly spend our entire lives throwing ourselves in front of the juggernaught that is the female species.
my point being, you are in your mid teens and beleive me this is not the first chick that is going to mess you up like this. ask your self if you can see your self with this girl for the rest of your life, if you cant answer yes straight away then she aint the one for you and you will be well served to keep asking that question for the next few relationships. even if the question is yes then still be on your gaurd because chicks are the unbeatable at mind games and will always have the upper hand. (have been caught by this sooo many times)
going from what i have read in your postings you already have too much doubt about this girls loyalty even though your relationship may have moved up a gear recently, that and the guilt are not normal feelings mate, you should both be happy and comfortable with the developing stages of a relationship. if you dont deal with this trust issue soon it can and will get ugly, and costly if you are not being carefull. (not going to be too specific but i hope you understand what i mean).
hope you manage to steer your way through this, you can take comfort in the fact that there are not many guys in this world that havent agonised over women troubles, in fact it is an occupational hazard. the good news is the more practice you get the easier it becomes to deal with smile.gif


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post Mar 28 2009, 06:21 PM
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QUOTE (Pedja Simovic @ Mar 27 2009, 07:48 AM) *
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not for him!!!!





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