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post Mar 30 2009, 07:00 PM
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Okay GMC, seems like everybody is against me. Everybody i no is talking behind my back now. My exgilfriend is saying that I attacked her and she is telling everybody! I DIDNT THO, OF COURSE! IM NOT A LUNITIC! And recently I just got a full grant to go to a state college. I dont have to pay a dime. My friend for like 15 years is now saying that the only reason that i got that is because my family is poor. SO WUT! They wouldnt give it to me because im poor because i was approved for a student loan. It says so in there bylaw book. If you talk about me, thats one thing but if you mess with my family thats another. And some days ago, i heard two girls talking behind my back. They were making fun of the way I walk because I kind of hobble/limp. 5 years ago, I was skateboarding in the snow, and slipped and dove my knee into glass. Needless to say, thats what messed up my walking. Wut is going on? Is there no respect anymore (Pantera-Walk) The problem is that they are all girls so I cant fight them and put them in their place. And I dont want them to get an eating disorder becaus emy words are always harsh. So what do I do?

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post Mar 30 2009, 07:28 PM
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wow slow it down man, really there is absolutely no reason for you to be mad or angry. I say - so what people are talking behind your back, if you are a good person and don't hurt anyone, and honest these are not the people you want to have contact with in the first place right? Anger is not something that is easy to manage, but you mentioned something like "if I could fight them I would put them in their place". Are you seriously considering this? Cause if you do stop and think about what would you solve with this - absolutely nothing. With violence you cannot work out life problems. Now, I'm not involved in your situation, and don't know the details, but if the people are making fun of you because you walk funny to them, you should NOT get upset about it. They can think that - who cares what they think. They wouldn't be laughing if they had such issues so I say they are just too immature to understand it. About your girl, I can't help really, I don't know why she would lie about something like that, but if she made that up, this is not the girl for you man. Don't worry, be yourself, and don't let anybody put you down or get you upset. Also, anger will definitely not bring you any comfort at all, just work your way out of this by intelligent thinking and really see what this is all about and accept things as they are.






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post Mar 30 2009, 07:59 PM
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Sorry to hear about what your going through sad.gif I know it cant be easy.. but I agree 100% with everything Ivan said here.

And fighting will never solve a single thing, it will just make matters worse and will put you in a bad light where you dont deserve to be.


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post Mar 30 2009, 08:09 PM
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yeah, Ivan has the right point of view for this.! just let it go man.
focus on your stuff, and don´t worry about people. if they have time to talk about you behind your back, it means that they haven´t a better thing to do. and that is so funny, just smile and walk your own road.


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post Mar 30 2009, 08:10 PM
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Well You can't be angry at people that are saying You are poor, if it is the truth. Still people shouldn't make judgments based on ones family earnings. I know it is hard, but I would ignore those people. Most people have no respect for anything, and lies are something common for them. There is nothing we can do about it. Just try our best to spend time with people that are worth it, and not spend it with the rest...


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post Mar 30 2009, 08:27 PM
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I just saw that I forgot to mention your friend who told you that you got the full grant to college state cause you're poor. Perhaps he is right about you being poor, but this is not a way to tell you cause it may imply in some way that you wouldn't go to college if you are rich, and this would mean that you didn't got the grant because of your intelligence. Perhaps he is just being jealous? And if your family is poor that is certainly not your fault and you are trying your best to work your way through life. You got the grant for college, and you should be proud of that - forget what the guy is saying, that is completely irrelevant. You know what is right and don't be bothered by this.


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post Mar 30 2009, 08:37 PM
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My family isn't really that well off financially, and I do get alot of financial help from the government for school.

and if someone told me that the only reason that I am getting this money is becacuse my family is "poor"
I would simply reply

"I know" smile.gif

no reason to get angry at this.

Most of what I was going to say has already been said here. but just to embellish the fact...

No reason to get angry at such things. If you walk with a little hobble and somebody makes fun of you for it, oh well, they're an asshole. Get over it. If I heard my best friend making fun of me because I am awkward in conversation (and I am) I wouldn't get angry, there's no reason to.


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post Mar 30 2009, 09:22 PM
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Don't see why you can't disapprove of what those girls say just because they're female. It doesn't give them any special privileges to be hurtful without retort, if you feel it that way.

And hey, maybe all it takes is a 'hey, don't you think my limp alone annoys me enough without you commenting on it constantly?'.

Who knows. Best of luck.
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post Mar 30 2009, 11:36 PM
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I can see that people around you are just plan and simple JEALOUS ! That comment about getting a scholarship is so stupid that you shouldn't really give it a second thought.I guess your friend is just jealous about it and then he is trying to make up excuses (for himself) and not face the real truth about you being successful (more then he is).Also you ex is acting around and trying to get some attention or something you don't need to worry much about it...You should go on and not be bothered what others talk behind your back..Be yourself and they won't be able to "hurt" you!


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The girls commenting on your walk is nothing to get bothered over. The problem is more on their side than yours, if they can't handle flaws on other people - how hard mustn't it be for them to see themselves in the mirror every day?
And their problems will grow bigger every day, for every new wrinckle and every added ounce of bodyfat.

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Hey man we're not against you and the advice given here is spot on.

The best thing you can do is to work hard for your scholarship. Believe me its what I did when I went through a phase many years ago a school, you know the usual bullying and harassment etc, etc. I decided there and then to work hard on my education get a good job and reap the benefits it brings and get away from the morons.

Things may look bleak now but you'll look back and know you did the right thing.

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QUOTE (sigma7 @ Mar 30 2009, 01:00 PM) *
Okay GMC, seems like everybody is against me. Everybody i no is talking behind my back now. My exgilfriend is saying that I attacked her and she is telling everybody! I DIDNT THO, OF COURSE! IM NOT A LUNITIC! And recently I just got a full grant to go to a state college. I dont have to pay a dime. My friend for like 15 years is now saying that the only reason that i got that is because my family is poor. SO WUT! They wouldnt give it to me because im poor because i was approved for a student loan. It says so in there bylaw book. If you talk about me, thats one thing but if you mess with my family thats another. And some days ago, i heard two girls talking behind my back. They were making fun of the way I walk because I kind of hobble/limp. 5 years ago, I was skateboarding in the snow, and slipped and dove my knee into glass. Needless to say, thats what messed up my walking. Wut is going on? Is there no respect anymore (Pantera-Walk) The problem is that they are all girls so I cant fight them and put them in their place. And I dont want them to get an eating disorder becaus emy words are always harsh. So what do I do?


I'm going to make this nice in short for you biggrin.gif Life is incredibly to short for you to worry about people talking behind your back. I just realized this recently. The guy who is calling you poor, wow excuse my language but he is a dumbass. He probably is to stupid to get scholarship to a community college so he feels the need to bag on you. To me it just looks like people are jealous. Wow so much for making that short haha

I hope things get better man.


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post Mar 31 2009, 01:18 PM
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Cheer up my friend!
Just don't answer back, or if you do answer with very kind words:

"If your enemy is hungry, give him bread to eat; and if he is thirsty, give him water to drink; For in doing so, you will heap coals of fire upon his head, and the Lord will reward you."

It really works in the end, I have tried this many times...


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post Mar 31 2009, 08:08 PM
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ur right guys, ur absolutely right...im not gonna risk my future to teach them a lesson when i can by ignoring them...

everybody, thank you so much for ur replies and comments, it helped me a lot and helped me focus on more important issues

I dont know how to repay u guys

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