Hey man, I know you know what I know about anxiety and depression and we've talked about it before so won't bore you with that again!
Seems to me you feel a little out of control, as if your life is now being steered in directions you haven't chosen. Maybe what would do you good is start doing things that you can control. Work towards something, start thinking what work CAN do for you. Why not save up some money and go away for a bit? You could even go traveling for as long as you want.
My girlfriend is also feeling rubbish about her job currently and we're in the middle of working out plans for her too. She's been signed off due to stress for a week, so we can try and see what changes we can make to make her life a little less stressed.
You could always do the same, go see your GP and explain what mental effect your living situations are having on you at the moment, and they'll more than likely suggest taking some time off to think about what you want.
My personal advice to all of this is to look at ways in which you can change what you're unhappy about and then, aslong as you've thought it through, IMPLENT them.
For example, you hate that your band is a cover band. Tell them you don't want to play covers, if they say they'er only interested in playing covers - find a new band. I know you've said that you think that it might be hard to find new members, but you'll never know for sure unless you try. Come up with a little flyer type advertisement and stick them up in your favourite pubs, gig venues etc and say what kind of music you want to play and leave an email for people to get in touch. If nobody does, at least you've gone out there and tried.
With the girlfriend issue, this is a more complex one. Normally it would be good to recommend you sorting yourself out before looking for a lady, because you could either get co-dependant or dependant on them for your happiness. Also you want a potential lady friend to see you at your best mentally, so they can really get to know you properly
I know they're a bit of a tabo subject and heavily sneered at and joked about, but dating sites are GREAT in my opinion. Be it just for some mindless fun and flirtation online with out any commitment, its good fun. Plus it can help loads with confidence just talking to people. If you want to meet someone for a more serious relationship, well... I met my girlfriend on match.com, we both went on as a joke and ended up meeting each other after clicking so well... We've almost been going out a year and I honestly want to spend the rest of my life with her. So whatever other people say, it can work.
Other things you mention, only really you know the answer to. Just try to think about what you can change or help yourself by doing, then start to make those changes.
Hope this helps mate
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QUOTE (OrganisedConfusion @ Feb 9 2009, 03:04 PM)
It's safe to say my life is going and has been going down the pan for the last 5 years and it's building to it's conclusion it seems right now. Here are the many things that haven't gone in my favour and it's safe to say I need help drastically.
1. My job is terrible. I get paid really well but it's the most depressing work I could possibly imagine and the manager complains at me daily and never tries to help out and he has had a general dislike of me from the start. I HAVE to find a new job. I can't carry on living with this job as every day makes me feel suicidal. I have to change this.
2. My money isn't good as it is and if I lose my job I'm screwed. This next payday in 2 weeks I have finally got into the plus for the first time in 6 years which should be a great moment for me but worrying about losing a job I don't want is overpowering this feeling as I know I'll be thrown back into this awful living and I have so much outgoing each month that I can't cancel and the biggest one doesn't end for good until October time
3. I have lost my love for guitar and more shockingly music. I never listen to music anymore. When people around me play it I get annoyed and tell them to turn it off. I hate the music I play in the band I'm in and I hate that we are now predominantly a covers band. This is dragging me down and the fact I'm useless on guitar after playing for near 7 years is demoralising also as I used to play for very large periods of time each day and I seem to have gone backwards.
4. I have like 1 friend that I care about and that is it and this means most weekends I just sit infront of the TV playing games for 2 days straight with about 4 hours for sleep in between.
5. I haven't had a girlfriend in like 5 years and I am getting older and older quickly but unfortunately I am an ugly loser with nothing to offer to anyone.
I have just lost everything over the last 5 or 6 years. I feel I did a degree that is useless even though it is a great degree to have I just don't feel I am good enough at it and I don't think it offers me many opportunities where I am now. And also I hate the UK and want to move badly anywhere else.
I just feel that over my whole life I have made wrong decision after wrong decision and I wonder whether things will ever be good for me.
If anybody can help me then I'd be very grateful as I am terrible currently.
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