How To Conquer "i'm Old And Will Never Be..."? |
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Aug 3 2016, 05:09 PM
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I'm 43 on Friday, think how I feel!
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Aug 3 2016, 10:13 PM
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QUOTE (Caelumamittendum @ Aug 3 2016, 03:16 PM)  How do you fight thoughts like the above?  I'm no expert, but everyone's life has its own rhythm. Jason's may be different than mine or yours. Not better, just different. That said, frustration is usually a sign of being too attached to outcomes. Music is supposed to be about finding joy in playing. Enjoy the journey and don't fixate on the what's at the end of the road. -------------------- Cyber-industrial music and video animations:
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Aug 4 2016, 07:46 AM
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I feel your frustration Ben.
I have had guitars for twenty five years and I never really got anywhere for twenty two of those. I had all the Troy Stetina books, and loads of other self teaching things. I'd pick up a guitar, noodle for ten minutes, get out a Stetina book do a couple of exercises put it away for a week. Bad practice = lack of progress = lack of inspiration to practice and so the circle continued. I joined GMC when I was 48 and even though my progress is not quick I know why, mainly because I only have about an hour and a half day to practise. I think there is always an element of natural ability too, this is why there are people like Becker, Vai, Satch, Phil Taylor, Usain Bolt etc but, they still all had to put the hours in. 15 a day in Vai's case. I had a chat with Gab recently about looking for shortcuts etc and you can read it HERE, I outlined my frustrations and we came up with a new routine that I am now really enjoying. I now enjoy each note I play, I no longer get frustrated I just accept it for what it is and enjoy the fact that I am moving forward and that is better than the guy down the road with immense amounts of natural talent not progressing because he doesn't apply himself. It's a bit of a GMC mantra but you have to enjoy the journey, some of us will stop off for longer at various ports of call but nobody reaches the horizon, some just appear to have reached it but when you reach them you realise that they are still on their journey. You play well Ben, enjoy building on what you've got, appreciate each step as you would watching a plant grow from a seed, it's just as beautiful a process. Lastly. Check out the cartoon Jason did for me not long after I'd joined. They got me sussed pretty quickly  Hope this helps buddy. Phil
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Aug 4 2016, 12:36 PM
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QUOTE (Phil66 @ Aug 4 2016, 08:46 AM) I feel your frustration Ben. I have had guitars for twenty five years and I never really got anywhere for twenty two of those. I had all the Troy Stetina books, and loads of other self teaching things. I'd pick up a guitar, noodle for ten minutes, get out a Stetina book do a couple of exercises put it away for a week. Bad practice = lack of progress = lack of inspiration to practice and so the circle continued. I joined GMC when I was 48 and even though my progress is not quick I know why, mainly because I only have about an hour and a half day to practise. I think there is always an element of natural ability too, this is why there are people like Becker, Vai, Satch, Phil Taylor, Usain Bolt etc but, they still all had to put the hours in. 15 a day in Vai's case. I had a chat with Gab recently about looking for shortcuts etc and you can read it HERE, I outlined my frustrations and we came up with a new routine that I am now really enjoying. I now enjoy each note I play, I no longer get frustrated I just accept it for what it is and enjoy the fact that I am moving forward and that is better than the guy down the road with immense amounts of natural talent not progressing because he doesn't apply himself. It's a bit of a GMC mantra but you have to enjoy the journey, some of us will stop off for longer at various ports of call but nobody reaches the horizon, some just appear to have reached it but when you reach them you realise that they are still on their journey. You play well Ben, enjoy building on what you've got, appreciate each step as you would watching a plant grow from a seed, it's just as beautiful a process. Lastly. Check out the cartoon Jason did for me not long after I'd joined. They got me sussed pretty quickly Hope this helps buddy. Phil Thanks for the lengthy reply, Phil. I agree with what you say. I just sometimes feel like I've wasted years where I could have put in a lot of practice time. I've had the time, just not the motivation, and soon I will have less time QUOTE (Monica Gheorghevici @ Aug 4 2016, 08:53 AM) Ben, you are still young. I have 38 years old and guess what...I really don't care about my age. Of course I truly believe that I'm immortal so... the time will not be a problem for me to reach the level that I wish  I never think at the things that I didn't made in the past. If I not made something probably I had a good reason at that moment. So...if I can not turn back the time and do things in other way, why should let these kind of thoughts to grieve me? I'm very focused in the present and at this moment I know that I dedicate absolutely all my time for practice. If I will be a good guitarist when I will have 50 years I will be happy. If I will never be a good guitarist I will also be happy because I will know that I made everything was possible for this. It's more important and healthy to think what you can do from now on Thanks for the reply, Monica. As said, it's not that I think these things every day, but sometimes the thought comes to me when I'm not able to parry it away QUOTE (Tom51 @ Aug 4 2016, 01:22 PM) Ohh Ben  I fully understand what you are saying and I also regret that I never had the courage to start guitar playing when I was that young which was in the 70ies. I much admired rock music as teenager but was never self confident enough to ask my parents to buy me a cheap acoustic. But hey... there is nothing we can change about it and I am now happy that I started guitar playing at the age of 51! So in november I will be playing for 2 years now. Sure I will never be a good player but I enjoy my time with the guitar and very slowly get better. I think that is the reason why most of use are here... Don't get me wrong, if I don't become the new guitar god, I won't feel totally let down. I know there are reasons. Also, I'm not saying that it's ever too late, cause I would say to anyone else: "It's never too late!". |
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Aug 4 2016, 01:13 PM
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QUOTE (Caelumamittendum @ Aug 4 2016, 12:36 PM) Thanks for the lengthy reply, Phil. I agree with what you say. I just sometimes feel like I've wasted years where I could have put in a lot of practice time. I've had the time, just not the motivation, and soon I will have less time I know how you feel Ben, I really do, but, I've come to realise that there is absolutely no point beating yourself up about it. Our yesterdays have gone, learn from them but let them go, make the most of now. What's done is done, no point looking back, look the way you are going and that is forward. Cheers buddy. -------------------- SEE MY GMC CERTIFICATE “Success is not obtained overnight. It comes in instalments; you get a little bit today, a little bit tomorrow until the whole package is given out. The day you procrastinate, you lose that day's success.” Israelmore Ayivor |
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Aug 5 2016, 08:30 AM
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As we get older I wonder if we need to re-evaluate what success as a guitarist is to us, redefine our goals or just re-plan our steps to attaining our goals.
It seems both from my experience and others in this thread we put a lot of pressure on ourselves and beat ourselves up. -------------------- My SoundCloud
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Aug 7 2016, 09:58 AM
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QUOTE (Caelumamittendum @ Aug 5 2016, 12:59 PM) For some reason it's more impressive if someone is good at age 17 than 27 That 17 year old was probably amazing at 12 too Ben. The word prodigy comes to mind with people like Becker. Don't be hard on yourself mate, from what I've seen, your playing is great. It takes as long as it takes,. Just enjoy it. Wow! I've just realised I'm a master of not following my own advice I found this inspiring and humbling at the same time. This girl has put the hours in and is now one of those 17 year olds you speak of though not, as far as i know, writing her own material yet, or at least she hasn't published any yet. This post has been edited by Phil66: Aug 7 2016, 10:00 AM -------------------- SEE MY GMC CERTIFICATE “Success is not obtained overnight. It comes in instalments; you get a little bit today, a little bit tomorrow until the whole package is given out. The day you procrastinate, you lose that day's success.” Israelmore Ayivor |
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